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On Face book I found quite a few women that want to sail and have real experience.

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You surely made it sound like from every corner were coming the hits. Maybe it's becauase you are just fed up, and rightfully so. As I posted before. There's absolutely nothing wrong with telling the wives. As Denise types it may be time to look in other places for lady sailors. BEST WISHES with sorting it out........i2f

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Maybe it's becauase you are just fed up [/I][/B]
You got that right. I'm a child of the post-feminist era: I have tended to assume that everyone, m or f, married or single or whatever, will play by the generally-accepted rules. There's a time and place for hitting on people . If you're older than 20 you should be able to make that judgment. And if you're already taken, the time and place would be NEVER and NOWHERE.

I never had to deal with creepy married guys or weird out-of-the-blue come-ons before, so getting blindsided by this stuff on my own boat has been kinda shocking. When it happens repeatedly, yeah, I get fed up. It's just so totally out of bounds. And I've never had to limit tennis partners or skiing buddies based on whether they were male or female, so the idea that I should choose my crew by gender rather than skill seems archaic and silly and a little insulting, especially when there are so few other women who sail in my small town. Should my choices be limited just because I'm a girl?

I'm relatively new to sailing, so maybe this is a naive perspective. But after a couple of years as a boat owner it looks to me like there are corners of the sailing world that are about two generations behind the times. Sometimes that's a good thing! Just not in this case.
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Inland...seriously...chill out on this whole thing. You're way too sensitive. Sailing is an aphrodisiac, sista! And you're choosing to sail with these chumps. So you have 4 options:

1. Enjoy the fact that you're obviously a hottie, just say no, harden up, and don't sweat it so much.
B. Vet the chumps more effectively before you sail with them and make sure you sail ONLY with those for whom you want to drop the hat.
ii. Sail ONLY with other straight post-feminist chicks.
4. Sail ONLY with ascetic monks and gay dudes.

Personally, I typically choose ii.


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Heck... just say no... and that's it. I would think...

Heck... just say no... and that's it. I would think.
It doesn't sound hilarious... particularly... but it's just how it goes anywhere...
It is up to you to set boundaries.... i'd say if you say no.. and that doesn't work.. then just hand him a life jacket and tell him it's time to swim ashore....
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OK, Smack, I'll give you an example. Last weekend, I spent a couple of hours out on the lake with a guy I hadn't sailed with befo re. We had a good time, but all sailing-focused and totally nonflirtatious. Fine. Then the wind died down, so we were heading back to the harbor under sail, but pretty slowly so there was not to do but sit and talk. Conversation, as I recall, was pretty random and totally innocuous - recent travel; annoying airline rules; the lake levels; and boat & trailer maintenance in the offseason. And then this:
Inland: So you only repack your trailer bearings once every 5 years or so?
Crew (suddenly giving me The Look): Can I kiss you right now?
Inland: WTF????
I have to admit, it sounds hilarious, but this is about the fifth time this year something like this has happened to me, and it's getting really old. If anyone can explain to me where I dropped the hat, I'd be grateful.

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Inland...seriously...chill out on this whole thing. You're way too sensitive. Sailing is an aphrodisiac, sista! And you're choosing to sail with these chumps. So you have 4 options:

1. Enjoy the fact that you're obviously a hottie, just say no, harden up, and don't sweat it so much.
B. Vet the chumps more effectively before you sail with them and make sure you sail ONLY with those for whom you want to drop the hat.
ii. Sail ONLY with other straight post-feminist chicks.
4. Sail ONLY with ascetic monks and gay dudes.

Personally, I typically choose ii.
But sailing with monks and gay dudes is truly entertaining. You haven't lived until you have heard a Gregorian rendition of "in the Navy."
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I have a small boat, and I dry-sail: it's possible to single-hand but launching really requires two people, as does racing.
Well, can't help you with how to deal with obnoxious crew for racing but in addition to a 42' sailboat I also have a 20' ski boat and previously a 25' speedboat, both of which I launched singlehanded all the time.

I just tie a rather long bow line on the boat and tie the other end to the trailer. Check drain plugs, loosen all straps, hooks, tiedowns, etc. Back in, tap the brakes, boat slides off the trailer, I run back, grab the bow line off the trailer, tie boat to dock/tree/beach/whatever is available at the ramp. Go back to trailer, park it, then back to boat and go.

Coming back first tie up the boat. Go get trailer and back it in to loading depth, get boat, power onto trailer, hook up trailer winch, crank in, hook up safety lines, pull out and away from ramp, install straps, pull drain plugs, etc. Drive home.
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I am just about the chillest person in the world, so don't start thinking I'm some kind of feminazi, guys.

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Sailing is an aphrodisiac
Ah. Maybe this problem is more about fundamental misunderstanding than bad behavior.

I would say sailing (and I'm talking about dinghy sailing here, not luxury cruising with an autopilot!) is challenging, thrilling, frustrating and terrifying, satisfying when things go right...but aphrodisiac? That's, um, not the first thing that comes to mind. On the boat I'm too busy thinking about other things!
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