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I'm looking for experienced crewmate to learn from as I'll be taking title....Mid. January and to sail to Fla. panhandle soon after...a couple days sailing in Key largo to establish comfort/ compatibality?
Don't look back....they may be gaining on ya!
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Oh, I'm all about the party -- but there's a big difference between joking around in public when everyone has a G&T in hand, and a married man making schmoopy eyes and inappropriate suggestions when he's crewing for me. Yuck.

A few solutions have come to mind: the unannounced jibe (oh, I've been tempted); finding women to sail with (not easy here, since the few who sail, sail with their SO); or limiting crew to single men, from whom the occasional schmoopy look might not be unwelcome (ok, so where are they?).

Sad-but-true moral of the story, I guess, is that guys on boats -- even sailboats -- behave badly; and a girl should be prepared to deal with it.

ok haven't you seen the t shirt. wanted new girlfriend who likes to sail, send pics of boat? obviously they just want to get your boat. LOL
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ok haven't you seen the t shirt. wanted new girlfriend who likes to sail, send pics of boat? obviously they just want to get your boat. LOL
They may not even want the whole boat....just the 'cockpit' (sorry, I couldn't resist....mea culpa)

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I'm 65, loaded, good lookng, beautiful sloop, and love to sail.And we get to the boat in a wonderful restored Corvette. Would not mind being a sugar daddy.
All I need is a note to pin on my chest from my wife saying to kll the SOB.
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Was the biggest issue the fact that these where married men ("Taken")?

Would it be acceptable if single friends invited for sailing make a move?!!!
Or, is it possible that his wife would not mind him having a casual relationship with his sailing buddy?!!!
Now, if we keep the marriage out, I see how this would be a problem. You want to have a sailing partner only, he is too eager to get a lot more friendly... The way I see it, as if I invite somebody for a drink, and he starts selling me a condo in Florida?...
I kinda understand them though.
The way our lifes are, we've taken "romance" out of the work place, we drive to and from everywhere, the only place poor guy can meet a girl is while sailing (single or "taken").
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I'm sorry to hear too many guys are behaving badly. Some of it may have to do with expectations and communication styles.

Maybe some of it has to do with how many guys are still socialized to "conquer"; an appearance of promiscuity is not always a liability in the "boys' treehouse".
And, maybe even the one-with-one sailing has a different social atmosphere than something like golf, tennis, skiing, etc. since two people on a boat are relatively isolated; maybe some guys think they are "off leash" when they're on the boat or when they go to big regattas. And maybe some guys think of hitting as making compliments?! Dunno, just thinking out loud.

Some cruising boats have a sheet of paper or laminated "welcome to the boat" card that covers house rules, expectations. and the do-and-don't items. Is there any chance that something like that would do some good?
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Unfortunately, I think the boors will be boors regardless of anything that Inland Girl or any of the other women boat owners aboard this forum may post on their boats...

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The way our lifes are, we've taken "romance" out of the work place, we drive to and from everywhere, the only place poor guy can meet a girl is while sailing (single or "taken").
Good point.
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