Waiter or waitress when fine dining?

[deniseO30]

I like service from a very very mannerly "nothing I won't do to make Ma'am happy" waiter. Bow tie optional!

[deniseO30]

Ok.. to qualify the sailing aspect.. after a ladies group is just back from a few weeks at sea....

[T37Chef]

The term used these days is "server"

[deniseO30]

waitperson is what I use most of the time chef, but to be specific..

[rockDAWG]

Well, I am a pig. I prefer young and beautiful waitresses. If a waiter shows up at our table, I will kindly request to trade for another one.

I think I am not as bad as others. At least I have not posted a thread "Looking for Young Female Boat Mate, no experience needed" yet.

[jephotog]

I was a waiter for 10 years in many a fine dinning environments. Used it to pay for my ski bumming ways. Then used to pay for my education as a pilot. To understand the mindset of a waiter understand the word obsequious. We are there to serve. Their income is based on your happiness and perceived quality of the job they have done. In short they will respond to anything you call them.

I did make the mistake once of calling a woman mam who felt she was too young for the title. You need a thick skin to work as a server sometimes. I once found New Yorkers respect you more if you are a slight bit hostile if they act up. I have been called all sorts of names but do not care as long as your bill was over $100 and you left %20. Probably server is the most appropriate term, but if the staff is mixed asking for your waitress might make it easier for the other person to narrow it down.

PS: I made more money as a waiter than I do as a pilot.

[smackdaddy]

Originally Posted by jephotog

I was a waiter for 10 years in many a fine dinning environments. Used it to pay for my ski bumming ways. Then used to pay for my education...

Exactly the same here during college. I was also a Maître d’ at one point - and for high-end "fine dining" I can say that the best, most successful servers were always male. At lower-end places - it didn't matter as much.

Whether that was due to customer expectations, cultural issues, or what, I don't know. My hunch is that high-end customers just like smart, witty, handsome dudes serving them. It seems to imply more value - for whatever reason. And this is pretty fascinating in itself considering our "advanced, open" culture.

High end cuisine is a very weird world. But jeez you can rake in some coin. And the hostesses were always hot.

[cormeum]

I refuse to get caught up in PC garbage.

Male: Waiter
Female: Waitress.

[deniseO30]

Well I was with a group of ladies in the social group I try to lead up. We were at a local place. not 5 star but very nice. We had a male server. the service was over the top! (good) but then we had a female server a month latter and she was tops also! So gender and service don't really matter, but I like a male sever just the same.

[St Anna]

Originally Posted by deniseO30

So gender and service don't really matter, but I like a male sever just the same.

Now Freud would write volumes on this 'typo'
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