How would it sit on you to have him skipper the entire trip, or just parts of, some days? (In the back of my mind, my question is whether the problem is entirely just him, or whether you or your role aboard plays some part.)
Fine by me. I think I understand what you mean. We share time at the helm pretty much equally whenever we sail. Someone else mentioned that he may just feel comfortable with my abilities (such as they are), which is flattering, but part of my personal philosophy is that as much as possible, if two people own the boat, both should know everything there is to know about its operation even if responsibilities are divided. I don't know everything about the engine, but I know how to check the oil, know what it sounds like when it's running correctly, keep up with the issues we've had and know the name of the mechanic who makes it hum
Charts and trip planning are simple enough that I think that isn't the issue. Same with the radio. It's the skipper's boat when (s)he's on deck.
Simple enough for some people and not others as I've found out teaching navigation. I've had classes where I've had to physically separate couples after they started to fight and one half gets impatient with the learning curve of the other.
Yes, it is the skipper's boat. And since both of our names are on the title, we're both legally responsible for the boat and the crew/passengers. Therefore, we should both know at least simple emergency procedures.
The more I respond to these posts, the more I conclude that I just need to be patient. I can't rush his comfort level.