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Re: Why are the Ladies silent on Sailnet?

i have been a member for several years but almost exclusively lurk, partially because i am timid about asking for help and partially because i am afraid of being beat down or jumped on if I say anything. I find it upsetting how quickly people jump all over posters for saying things that i don't think are really meant to be offensive, and the convo kinda degenerates. Ouch, now i am hiding under the keyboard in case i get shelled for that.

I do want to say how incredibly helpful i have found these forums- i have read literally thousands of threads and have used so much of the wonderful expertise and experience people have shared here.

I had been looking to the hersailnet as a possible place where i could talk with fellow female sailors, especially any who like me are relatively underconfident in their technical skills. I am in the process of a fairly major refit of my boat and for someone who previously regarded changing a lightbulb as a challenge, this is scary stuff. Especially as I am doing it in east africa where there is a real shortage of skilled people who you could hire as teachers or consultants. My club here is heavily british and south african, so being a yank female skipper makes me feel pretty isolated.

I would love to hear from other women who have taught themselves to work on their boats e.g. rewiring, re-doing standing rigging, etc. and how they did it! My husband is an absolute darling but isn't interested in sailing in the least, and isn't handy, so i am starting from scratch here.....

any words of wisdom from women out there who taught themselves to fix their boats or at least learned and did it on their own? any courses you could recommend? I am a decent sailor, but am looking at doing some of the ASA or RYA courses especially navigation to further my skills, but i don't see much in terms of courses for repair/maintenance.

oh well, that was my rant. I will probably be looking for the retract post button soon......
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Re: Why are the Ladies silent on Sailnet?

Pointy -

You did all that and still call yourself "timid"?????

You overcame the challenge to take on refitting a boat on your own. Seems to me that ignoring people you'll probably never meet face to face (although you sound like someone I'd love to have a cool drink with) should be at the bottom of your list of things to be wary of.

I too, bought a boat to refit on my own. Albeit a small one. I took refuge in the fact that any mistakes that don't sink me or set it on fire wouldn't be known to anyone but me and just plugged away.

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pointy, bravo!
I hope to see you continue to contribute.

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Pointy - you rock. And don't worry about the beatdowns. We've all got your back.

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ok this totally cracks me up- DRFyou are my hero, and I would love to have that cool drink when next I am in the B'more/Annapolis area where i am based in the states. SSCA Gam/Annapolis Sailboat show is on my calender if i can get a FF ticket!

BLJ I have read all your Dock 6 stuff and have gotten lots of ideas for refit and sail and life, and SD you are someone i look up to and fear!!! (kidding, sorta)

thank you all for being nice. It has been an interesting process becoming a skipper. I moved here to TZ 5 years ago with a winch handle, intending to find a boat to fit under it. I found a 1967 Westerly 28 which is a fantastic little boat for a beginner, and have gradually worked my way up to several week long cruises to Zanzibar with my husband and one 10 day cruise down to Mafia an island about 70? miles south of here. Unfortunately, 2 weeks after that, some friends were taken hostage by Somali pirates east of Mafia so we haven't ventured back down there. (Luckily after 20 months my friends have just been released. I would have been on that boat but decided I didn't have enough faith in the skipper to make the trip to ZA with them. whew.)

I used my angle grinder for the first time yesterday- big excitement! still in the bashing out stage, but hope to start on the upward slope e.g. think i have figured out how to re-install all my fixed portlights which are currently in my living room....

thanks again for all the wonderful info as well as quietly shared camaraderie i have enjoyed from you all!
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And Donna, I really like your approach "I too, bought a boat to refit on my own. Albeit a small one. I took refuge in the fact that any mistakes that don't sink me or set it on fire wouldn't be known to anyone but me and just plugged away. "

After very publicly t-boning a moored boat, then beaching my poor girl (both long stories too embarrassing to tell), then basically snorkeling a coral reef while sailing in what appeared to be negative water under our keel, I figure i've tried lots of ways to destroy my sturdy and tolerant boat, and yet she still sails me!
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Somehow, Pointy, I think you're going to do just fine!

You may be our only member in East Africa!!

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After very publicly t-boning a moored boat, then beaching my poor girl (both long stories too embarrassing to tell), then basically snorkeling a coral reef while sailing in what appeared to be negative water under our keel, I figure i've tried lots of ways to destroy my sturdy and tolerant boat, and yet she still sails me!
Pft. That's nothing. I took out an entire dock piling trying to get into a slip. The guys on the patrol with me decided to take some of the wood and make it into a necklace...which they presented to me in front of our local Coast Guard brass. In my defense, the piling was rotten through and through and a bird landing on it would have had the same result. Probably.

What doesn't sink your boat or kill you (or anyone else) is a Learning Experience. It's just nice when the Learning Experience is covered by your insurance.

Good luck with your boat and I hope to meet you when you're back in the area.
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Re: Why are the Ladies silent on Sailnet?

As I said earlier, I learned most things I know about navigation, rigging, diving, and engineering from women. Please don't feel intimidated by some of these dudes. I owned a night club in Isla Mujeres Mexico for a few years , and one night some race crew was in there. One of them was a nice young lady who said that the captain, her boy friend, had been yelling at her the whole race down from Tampa. I told her the dude yelling is the dude who isn't sure of him self or his knowledge. Like DR say's, who cares what these people you'll never meet anyway's thinks. I think your on a rightous path and you've got a good little boat worth fixing up, and belive me, it's not rocket science. Looking forward to following your progress. I've seen tons of women fix up boats and sail away on them.

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thanks to all for the encouragement as I am currently in the stage where the to-do list is pages long, everything is interdependent, and some days i go to the boat, poke at things with a screwdriver, and then burst into tears.

Yes Capt aaron, I *will* fix her up and sail again. thanks! I feel a lot better. We now return you back to our regular programming.

But if y'all have ever toyed with the idea of going on a safari in TZ, you are welcome to come stay for a few extra days and help me fix me boat I mean go sailing!
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