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Re: How many women here own their own boat?
Just popped in here, so I apologize for not being up to speed on all that has been said, but to pick up on the current themes:
In my experience sexism is alive and well in the sailing and cruising community. Multihullgirl is bang on in her observations. In my world the use of "admiral" is usually used in a smarmy sexist way. It's most often used by older men (I am 47) in reference to their wives or significant others, and rarely is it meant as complimentary.
My partner/wife is an equal partner in all that we do. She's a better helm's person, I'm good at sailing. She's a better navigator, I'm a better cook She's the engine rat, I excel at the electrical and plumbing. We both have our strengths and weaknesses, but we both do it all. Underway we alternate captain/helm duties with deck/galley. We discuss, and make decisions together. But in times of crisis, who ever's on helm calls the shots.
We both feel the sexism, mostly from the older men in our community. It's hard to deal with b/c it's not meant as harmful, and my partner and I mostly ignore it. But in our world, it is real, although diminishing as the older guys go off to pasture.
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