Welcome. My condolences for your family's loss.
You have two choices: truck the boat or have it delivered.
I don't recommend trucking in your circumstance as I understand it. You would have to find someone to move the boat to a yard to have the mast(s) taken down and the boat and rigging prepared for shipping, find a trucking company with the right gear, get all the permits for an oversized load, move the boat, and then put the jigsaw back together. Given your background you'd be dependent on a lot of other people, potentially working by remote control in BC. If you take this route you would do well to get an advisor who has been through the process before.
I suggest finding a delivery skipper who will take responsibility for moving the boat on her own bottom. The cost will be the same or less, you won't have to take the boat apart, and you'll have one person (and his or her crew) accountable for the boat. The trip is considered "uphill" as it is against the prevailing winds. We don't know how well the boat sails. If she sails well and points high the conventional approach is to aim for Hawai'i until you can lay Point Flattery. If not it's a combination of motoring and sailing when possible along the US West Coast.
I do think you should move with deliberate speed. Boats deteriorate quickly when left to sit.
Here is what I would do, I think, in your place:
Try to get in touch with friends of your late brother-in-law and establish a relationship with someone who will keep an eye on the boat. Pictures of the boat inside and out are advised. Your nephew or you might consider a trip yourselves. While anyone can clean out the refrigerator, you're going to want to find someone with an understanding of boat systems to make sure nothing else goes awry.
Find a delivery skipper who will take on the job. The right skipper will understand your position and coach you through the process of getting the boat home. Depending on just where the boat is this may include incremental moves and some rental cars for provisioning and to pick up crew.
As it happens I am
a delivery skipper. Getting me from Annapolis to Baja and then BC to Annapolis is probably not economic. I suggest you contact Hank Schmitt at Offshore Passages Opportunities (http://sailopo.com
- tell Hank I sent you) and check on his pro skippers (I was one before my own work got too busy). I think he has a couple on the West Coast. Those pictures I suggested will help clear up a lot of uncertainty, especially since if the boat isn't up to the trip you would have to pay a skipper to go home.
I hope this overview of your options is of some help. I'm sure others will fill in details I have glossed over, or may have a different perspective. I'll be off the grid for a couple of weeks from this Saturday on a delivery. You can ask questions here and someone will surely help. You can email me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org
if I can be of any assistance.