Originally Posted by Capt-T
I'm told the class will go on no matter the weather unless it's so bad that there are warnings against sailing. I'm a bit worried about this because I know she will hate me if the weather is bad... might even be a quick end to a dream.
Welcome to SailNet!
Have you asked your wife how she'd feel if the weather turns bad? Maybe if you talk about it before you go, it might settle her simply knowing that you understand her concerns. Or, you might find out that she's fine with it and ready to take on the challenge.
If you wait for perfect days to sail, you'll cut your sailing time considerably. On the other hand, if you strongly feel that you can't handle whatever weather is coming, you absolutely should not go. Not just for this class, but later when you're sailing on your own. I have never regretted the few times I decided that we weren't leaving the dock because of impending weather and my partner has always felt my decisions were a good call (especially listening to the numerous mayday calls while we're comfortable).
Tackling bad weather when you have an instructor with you might make you feel more comfortable in bad weather when it's just you and your family. Things will come up during the class that you can immediately get answers to and you'll have that knowledge when you need it in the future.
It is extremely important to learn how to deal with bad weather should it come up unexpectedly
, but for a first lesson, if you are so anxious about the boat capsizing or whatever fears you have, you might not absorb the basic boating instruction and may miss hearing something crucial not to mention be distracted which is a safety issue. Find out from whatever school you're enrolled in if you can take the class on a different day should you feel too uncomfortable about the weather. Maybe they will be amenable to letting you postpone if you're not asking for a refund.
The more you learn, the more you practice what you've learned, the safer you'll be and the more you'll enjoy the experience as you stretch yourselves.
Prior to the class, you might also read a book or two about heavy weather sailing, then, if you decide to tackle the weather, you will have at least read beforehand some of the techniques your instructor should show you. If you continue sailing, you should have a bunch of weather books in your sailing library anyway.
Good luck and I hope you both go for it!