I've never dealt with autism long term. You might trry posting your idea on an autism forum. I'd be worried about cruising with some one who impulsively jumps out a window. If you lose him overboard, neither you your wife will ever forgive you. But it is a decision for your family, I offer this for consideration.
You are right that communication is key as captain of a boat, and in child raising. Good luck, keep us posted.
Thank you for your response sir.
My son is likely to always be a child even though he is 30 years old. While he did have a moment when suicidal, it is not the total of who he is and what he may be. He has often told me since then, that he never wants to do that again.
My boat has some hatches but no windows and while I have seen suicides at a dock and off bridges I have never seen any at sea.
Mild forms of autism are very common and suicide is not unheard of. In the community of sailors I have known it to exist. My thoughts on the subject are that most everyone has had a suicidal thought and those who haven't likely have other sets of difficulties.
Intelligence by nature allows the individual to see through the madness that is our world and it's not an easy knowing.
My son almost never lies. He has a kind of innocence that is rare. I hold him up to those who would drink beyond logic -anytime.
As a commercial fisherman I witnessed drinking and madness beyond any. Sadly, I have seen it take lives too.
The wilderness offers some normality for the afflicted and the city is only as safe as meeting anyone on any sidewalk, anywhere. I certainly feel safer at sea in Alaska than driving down 101 into San Francisco.
I have posted on autism all over the place. It is part of my life as a sailor. One in 54 boys has enough of the affliction to show up on the radar.
So I believe it relative here but I may be wrong.
We shall see.