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Back when I was learning to sail with Offshore (4 newbies + 1 instructor in a Soling, and they overbooked 5 of us so the instructor had to hang off the transom and backstay, honest) we had a little problem on the second day in a cold April rain and us with poor foulies. Couldn't get the damn halyard to hoist. So the instructor, a shapely young Brazilian-American, who's hanging on the transom peering at three guys and two woman all clustered around the base of the main, says "Come on guys, let's see some MACHO!"
You've got to understand, we *knew* that sucker wasn't budging. We looked at each other, looked at her, and I think I'm the one who said "Macho? No habla Macho."
Yeah, it was stuck and no gorilla job on earth was gonna move it. Needless to say, when she showed up the next week in long pink fingernails we razzed the hell out of her for being too girlie and not having enough macho. (She said she had been to a wedding the past day and it wasn't her fault. Yeah, yeah.)
But yeah, that river IS awfully omnipresent. That's why I always suggest leaving it to the women, accepting any reason they give, if they want to do it separately, even for a "neutral" reason like "We'll get the benefit of two instructors and two points of view" or "this way we won't need to leave the kids with..." Whatever it is, let it be. I don't think I've ever met a couple, including the few who have been married for decades, that don't make compromises on a regular basis.