Originally Posted by Lucy54
My husband and I are nearing the end of a sailing lesson program in the Northeast. We have always wanted to learn to sail, and we're having a great time (we are mid-fifties). The problem is I am, in general, more of a timid person as opposed to an adventurer like my husband. Our latest lesson involved a day sail which brought us into open water. On our return the weather turned and it was raining and quite windy, causing the boat to heel excessively multiple times. Everyone else except for me and one other person seemed fine with the conditions. I was terrified that the 28' boat would topple over. At times it seemed that we were almost on the verge of "going over". We have one more outing before the session is over. After this last one, I'm not sure this is the sport for me, but I don't want to give up this easily. On the other hand, I don't think I want to get more involved in something that will cause me to become so unnerved everytime a less than ideal situation arises (which I know is certain to happen). Is this something that I will or can get used to? Is there somewhere that I can read something that may convince me that the boat will not tip over? I want to believe that this can be a safe sport if you follow the rules and are smart about things. Thanks ahead for any advice anyone can provide.
Can you not swim?....Are you afraid to be in water over your head with an approved life jacket on?...If Yes then you may never get more comfortable with healing as that fear is fear of the water
and nothing more..
Sailboats are made to tip over and right themselves back again...It's in there design..What you are afraid of is drowning or getting hurt because of the boat sinking or rolling over on you or leaving you to the sharks....or....______________you fill in the blank...
You were afraid the first time you dove from a diving board...the first time you road on the back of a motorcycle the first time you made love... the first time you ___________...
I suggest you get on a smaller boat with
your instructor and tell him you want to go out and purposely get knocked down...and right it again..Then you will have a positive experience as to what that is like..
You will fall out of the boat
you will get wet
You will get tired working with him to right it
you will learn some things very quickly
you will start laughing when it rights itself
you will be very greatfull it did
you will feel an adrenaline rush once back on board and confirm life is still in you
you will then make up your mind if sailing is or is not for you right there
I bet you will walk away saying ...Now what on earth was I so scared about anyway..that was kind of fun!..
I will bet you money
you brag about it to all your girlfriends..
Now go do it.......best gift you can give your husband ( self confidance) for every thing else there is master card