As bljones implied, you need to look at what happened and how to learn from it. Your story was well told so that means that you have a clear understanding of what happened, which is good. From reading your description a few things jump out:
1. Weather happens and you turned around which was a good idea.
2. You didn't know how to reef. You indicate that an earlier experience reefing didn't work out so you didn't reef. While this wasn't the root-cause issue of everything that followed, it was a mitigator. Reefing is a mandatory skill and must be learned. In the way of disclosure, I freely admit that it took me a long time to properly learn how to reef after my own disaster many years ago.
3. You touched bottom in the channel. This could have turned out very bad. Was the depth sounder not working? On Victoria, a non-working depth sounder is an item that will keep us at the dock. It's a safety item for us.
4. You had a spare bolt for the one that broke. That was good.
5. You ran out of gas. I'm sure that won't happen again because you won't leave the dock without at least 1/2 tank. U.S. Naval vessels are required to have a mandatory fuel reserve in case they need to sortie. The same idea applies to pleasure vessels.
6. You had only 1 oar. I'm sure that won't happen again either. Two oars or you don't leave the dock.
7. No spare can of oil. When you use the last one, buy two more. When you use one, buy another. Keep it on the boat; boat stuff on the boat and home stuff at home. My brother-in-law leaves his boat tools in his car's trunk which drives me crazy.
8. You drank heavily. That was good. No challenging boating experience should go unrewarded.
I hope that this didn't come off too terse. We do after action assessments at work and it's a force of habit. Trust me, everyone on Sailnet has had your experience. If they say otherwise, they're lying. Check out my posts under the Boneheaded Sailing Moves thread. I've had my share plus some!