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Thank you for sharing. Well, I am 31, wife is 26, kids are 6, 5, 4, 3. That is to start with.
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Bwahahahahaha!

You looking to get divorced, or what?
I thought I would be getting support from everyone and not getting dissed
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I thought I would be getting support from everyone and not getting dissed
This is what you call being dissed? You need to grow a thicker skin. I was just ribbing you a little.
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Considering the size of your family, you'd probably be far better off with a mid-30's catamaran, than a monohull 40' LOA. There'd be a lot more space for the four children and two adults... and the fact that the boat doesn't heel like a monohull would be a point in its favor. A lot of catamarans will have two smaller staterooms forward and a larger master stateroom aft...

Some good choices would be:

Catalac 9/10M
Gemini 105
Prout SnowGoose
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WOW Mr.,

Have you got an uphill climb. Mt. Everest type of uphill. Not that it can't be overcome, but patience on your part will be of the greatest necessity.

Where are you from? If you are close to the water it might be nice to take a day cruise on a LARGE boat. Let her see the stability, and the room. I would make it an adult only date. Be smoochie smoochie, and get ready to get your nosed browned

The harder you push the more she will withdraw from the idea. Patience, and cunning will be needed. BEST WISHES in winning her over, and it won't be over night........i2f
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I had always dreamed of owning a boat and living aboard, several times over the last 30yrs my wife thought of just owning a sailboat, but her thoughts would soon fade

About 4 yrs ago she got really sick and was taken to a hospital while I was out at a race, so I didn't know until I got home, once I found out I quit racing after 40 yrs. One day I took her for a drive to get her some fresh air and we drove by a lake were she saw a couple sailboats, she soon started thinking of owning one again, I told her if she was serious, I would sell all the race bikes and get her a daysailer, well she was serious, we looked around, found a fixer upper, I sold all but one bike, bought the boat and sunk all the bike funds into it.

What started out as a weekend sailing, fixing and get away thing soon became a extended weekend get away..........(for her, I had to work), then it turned into only coming home to wash clothes then head back to the boat, we now live aboard full time and it was I that was dragging anchore not wanting to sell the house.

Bottom line is don't rush it, make every trip out enjoyable and comfortable, My wife loves every second of living aboard, her health is better than ever and she'll never be on land again ( her words, not mine )


A funny little side ditty, our first boat was a 26' daysailer and she banged her head 10 times a day in that thing, when we got our 37 footer, the first thing she did was fall down the campanion way, twisting her knee, she was useless for 3 months
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Pappy - sounds like you have a winner, dude. Lucky man for sure.
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Pappy,

Thanks you for confirming my thoughts, and Smack is right......LUCKY MAN!
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Well your right I2F, patience is the key, never let go of the dream, but also never force it, if it was meant to be, it will happen naturally and last the longest

My wife is never short on words, but when we're out sailing, it's like she is in chruch, she stares out and just has that content look barely saying a word, I swear she's in another time and when no land is in sight, she can be in any ocean she wants.

We recently got our new slip on the outside docks, our neighbor has been in the same slip for 40 yrs, my wife says she has no problem have this view for the next 40 either
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I like the charter a boat for a week idea. Go somewhere awesome like the virgin islands for vacation. She'll have a great time and will associate living aboard a boat with vacation, making her much more open to the idea.
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