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Hello all, firstly let me say im selling my house, I have yet to commit to another property because I would like to liveaboard. Currently I live in this ranch home on 6.55 acres with my 6yr.old son and his mother whom has a serious methadone addiction-its legal here- so I cant use that against her to get my boy, she also has a 17yr son whom ive grown to love after 8 years of knowing him. I have a feeling that if I dont make a break now she will just suck through the money in no time-shes already picking out expensive furniture I dont want or need. Ive tried to convince her that living aboard would be a good idea she would not even entertain the ideal. I would hate to leave my kids but she is dragging me down. I was thinking of buying her a little house to keep a roof over their heads and buy myself a nice used cruiser to live on. I have family in panama and my best friend moved to ecuador whom says theres a market for english speakers. Do I need my passport for cruising? I want to live off the hook and come back for my kids once they are old enough to choose. Does this sound crazy? Im sure ive left out alot but I can fill in the gaps if anyone is interested or has advice for me.
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Hello all, firstly let me say im selling my house, I have yet to commit to another property because I would like to liveaboard. Currently I live in this ranch home on 6.55 acres with my 6yr.old son and his mother whom has a serious methadone addiction-its legal here- so I cant use that against her to get my boy, she also has a 17yr son whom ive grown to love after 8 years of knowing him. I have a feeling that if I dont make a break now she will just suck through the money in no time-shes already picking out expensive furniture I dont want or need. Ive tried to convince her that living aboard would be a good idea she would not even entertain the ideal. I would hate to leave my kids but she is dragging me down. I was thinking of buying her a little house to keep a roof over their heads and buy myself a nice used cruiser to live on. I have family in panama and my best friend moved to ecuador whom says theres a market for english speakers. Do I need my passport for cruising? I want to live off the hook and come back for my kids once they are old enough to choose. Does this sound crazy? Im sure ive left out alot but I can fill in the gaps if anyone is interested or has advice for me.
Frankly, you need serious professional family counseling, not anonymous advice from people that don't know you or your kids. In any case, I can assure you that leaving your children with your wife to satisfy your own needs would be unwise in the extreme (IMHO). There will be no "choosing" by them when you elect to return, you will have already made their choice for them.
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She is not my wife though I have given her 3 engagement rings over the years and she pawns or sells them for more dope, over and over and over again, so what you are saying is no matter what im stuck being a slave for another 13yrs, so I can keep supporting my kid and as side effect stuck supporting my babies mother that thinks that I owe her instead of being grateful for the years of support? Uggh it doesnt seem right....
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Any advice? I mean she steala from my wallet when I sleep, I have always wanted to sail, because my family lives in panama city panama, anyone know what it costs to pass through the canals?
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Frankly, you need serious professional family counseling, not anonymous advice from people that don't know you or your kids. In any case, I can assure you that leaving your children with your wife to satisfy your own needs would be unwise in the extreme (IMHO). There will be no "choosing" by them when you elect to return, you will have already made their choice for them.

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dude in the nicest way all i can say you are incredibly co-dependent on a very self destructive person
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Does anyone think I should snatch my kids and float off into the sunset? Haha just kidding but I think I could give them a better quality of life, im not a kid snatcher was just joking, maybe I could relocate them to a near coastal area so I could have them on the weekends but she didnt think it was funny or a good idea when I half mentioned it. Curses! Someone say sail off into the deep and keep in touch via facebook and pay child support
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Thanks for the perceptive insight crew... I have stuck by for the children not the mother, just in case there was any doubts. Avast ye hearties!!
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Another quick side note, electronics sales say I load up with ipads and try and hock them over seas, legal? I want adventure and a modicrum of happiness, I dont care much for material possesions and enjoy scenic veiws, cruising seems relativly peaceful to me I bet I could go to sleep and not worry about rifling through my pockets. What type of products are most needed with the boating community?
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