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10-22-2014 12:21 AM
Daniela Poirier
Re: Kids or cruising first?

Hello! I'm sure, I am late for this response. Anyway, Cruising is real exciting and great but It could be more enjoyable and interesting with the whole family. My view here is to consider your kids first
09-10-2014 05:02 PM
flandria
Re: Kids or cruising first?

Fancy meeting you, ChristinaM, Jeff and Marcus (for the others: Marcus is the canine crew who also needs "care"), just as you are about to depart. You have crossed your Rubicon and are on the way.

No advice from me! But am I allowed a tiny bit of envy?

Be well, safe and happy!
09-10-2014 04:05 PM
CaptainForce
Re: Kids or cruising first?

Many of the negatives about kids on boats don't apply if the children live aboard from infancy instead of moving to the boat in transition from a house. There's also a difference in coastal cruising and having a slip when not cruising. My wife and I, both public school teachers, remained in a slip during the 190 days of the year that we were employed and cruised during summers and holidays. We also had the benefit of our schedules being identical with our children's school hours. We spent many summers in the Bahamas and the Florida Keys. Cruising with just my wife is wonderful, but cruising with our children was always a joy without regrets. My daughter and son-in-law now live on their vessel with my grandson. There is not one answer, one style of cruising, or one expected outcome. Families can have failures or successes on shore or on boats.
09-10-2014 03:50 PM
northoceanbeach
Re: Kids or cruising first?

And there is Rebel Heart, did they get mentioned yet?
09-10-2014 03:49 PM
northoceanbeach
Re: Kids or cruising first?

Here is my strong opinion.

People on here will tell you that you can have both. They will post links to blogs for proof. Well, I can post you links to people that have circumnavigated nonstop solo. It doesn't mean it's easy or common.

I would say less than one in a hundred boats I see out cruising have kids on them. I almost never see a younger couple out sailing with kids, usually it's grandparents boats.

Whether someone likes kids or not, you have to admit they make it much, much, much harder to buy a boat and go set out. It's already hard and overwhelming enough to do, why make it harder?

Kids are expensive, but extremely time consuming. So are boats, if you are not experts I see no way to devote your time to both.

I think people without kids see other couples and get the deluded impression that it's not so hard. They see a few cute moments and want that. They aren't seeing all the dirt and filth, and crying and endless nights and hours each day that you could be laying on the couch together researching where you want to travel?

If you don't cruise soon, you probably won't until you are retired. If there was a poll on here of who is cruising, they would almost all be retired, the rest, the young ones, would not have kids.

Just enjoy each other anyways, the world is hard enough without making it harder on yourselves.

I'm sure most people with kids secretly regret their decision, but there is so much peer pressure that it's taboo to mention it. So people slave their lives away and it's pretty much been thrown in the trash. But maybe they also don't realize it. Maybe they don't know what could have been if they hadn't destroyed their bodies and health and finances, any time spent just together. It's too late, but what if. What if you chose a different path and bought a boat and learned and sailed wherever you wanted? Would you look back at life remembering the times you shared your love together in Tahiti and Fiji, or at that cafe in Cingua Terra, Barcelona, Turkey, and have regrets?
09-08-2014 07:57 PM
casey1999
Re: Kids or cruising first?

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Originally Posted by ChristinaM View Post
We went with bljones's advice. Bought a 34' sailboat, sold nearly everything (including the Hobie Tiger ), moved aboard a few months ago and need to start heading south in a week or so. The current plan is to cruise 1-3 years, i.e., until we're tired of it or the money runs out. At that point we'll still be plenty young enough to keep up with toddlers if we so choose.

I'm not comfortable making decisions for the person I'll be after a few years of cruising, so future me will have to figure all of that out. But I'm pretty sure they'll opt to go cruising again, sooner or later.

(BTW, in case anyone comes across this later: It's extremely difficult and expensive to get long-term health insurance that covers pregnancy, even if you promise not to be in the US very much. The few options I found would have cost nearly much as just paying up front for what little they would cover for 2 kids in 5 years. And you had to start paying for the pregnancy rider from the very start of your coverage even though they wouldn't cover it for the first year. If it happens we'll just have to follow in the Bumfuzzle's footsteps and have our own set of "Mexicans".)
I think you made a good decision. I did some crewing for a couple whom had 3 kids from 1 year to 9 years aboard their boat. They sailed twice around the world with the kids and enjoyed it. One of the kids not so much.

Here is a link if interested:
http://expedition-sailing-vessel.com...-campaign.html

I never really felt good when we hit big storms (some with 80 knot winds and 40 foot seas- we were on a 85 foot sv) with the kids aboard as I always worried how they would fare if the boat did sink and we had to get into a life raft. Hypothermia becomes a big issue for a young child as well as phsical strength that may be needed for survival. Also, you never know how a birth might go. My own kid cost about $65k due to birthing problems, lucky the insurance covered.
09-08-2014 07:37 PM
Group9
Re: Kids or cruising first?

GO ............. NOW!

I'm 56. I dreamed about cruising from the time I was 18. I didn't go until I was 51. The entire cruise, all I kept thinking was, "This is so much fun. Why the hell didn't I do this when I was younger?" I'm trying to set my next cruise up right now.

GO................NOW.
09-08-2014 06:34 PM
Don0190
Re: Kids or cruising first?

Quote:
Originally Posted by ChristinaM View Post
?[LIST][*]Go cruising as a couple, ...................................

I'm not going to read the thread other than the original question.

If you are able do the above.

Worry about kids later (if you really want the best answer I can send you my kids who are 30 & 26 and I will go cruising for you)!
09-08-2014 05:51 PM
ChristinaM
Re: Kids or cruising first?

Quote:
Originally Posted by bljones View Post
Just go.

The rest will take care of itself.
We went with bljones's advice. Bought a 34' sailboat, sold nearly everything (including the Hobie Tiger ), moved aboard a few months ago and need to start heading south in a week or so. The current plan is to cruise 1-3 years, i.e., until we're tired of it or the money runs out. At that point we'll still be plenty young enough to keep up with toddlers if we so choose.

I'm not comfortable making decisions for the person I'll be after a few years of cruising, so future me will have to figure all of that out. But I'm pretty sure they'll opt to go cruising again, sooner or later.

(BTW, in case anyone comes across this later: It's extremely difficult and expensive to get long-term health insurance that covers pregnancy, even if you promise not to be in the US very much. The few options I found would have cost nearly much as just paying up front for what little they would cover for 2 kids in 5 years. And you had to start paying for the pregnancy rider from the very start of your coverage even though they wouldn't cover it for the first year. If it happens we'll just have to follow in the Bumfuzzle's footsteps and have our own set of "Mexicans".)
09-08-2014 05:40 PM
casey1999
Re: Kids or cruising first?

So what finally happened? Did you have kids, go sailing or both? The problem I have with kids after sailing for 4 years they have both decided they hate sailing. The boy suffers from sea sickness and the girl rather do other things. Sometimes I joke I am selling everthing and we are going cruising, not even my wife likes that idea. But when I retire I got some plans.
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