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10-07-2013 07:53 PM
capttb
Re: A mistress?

The Admiral and I have been married 40 years, I know there's an issue when she introduces me as her "first" husband, like there's a #2 on deck if I don't straighten up.
The sailing's more fun than the working on it part, if it's your first boat and you really like the "sport", it's probably not gonna be your last boat. If she really likes sailing she may get "Just a little bigger boat fever" before you do.
10-07-2013 06:51 PM
bljones
Re: A mistress?

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Free advice is frequently worth less than you pay for it...
But the quantity you get for the investment is impressive.
10-07-2013 05:52 PM
eherlihy
Re: A mistress?

Free advice is frequently worth less than you pay for it...
10-07-2013 05:48 PM
Mr. Chef
Re: A mistress?

Wow! A man goes to work, comes home and finds this has been a big topic while gone. Thank you all for weighing in. My wife loves to sail and we are both very excited about this project and what it will provide for our family. We discussed bringing this thing into our lives and without animosity or reservation, decided to move forward with it. She even thanked me today when I got home for getting us a boat. Maybe she read this thread Meanwhile, I have enjoyed the humor and real stories. . I think since we are in a home that is new to us and it needs some work, she was feeling rather anxious. I get into a project and I am like a terrier till I get it done. That has included house projects, but, I am kinda played out on house work, like sheetrock and wiring fixtures, paint, flooring, all the same type stuff the boat needs, but at the moment, I am much more smitten with the sailboat. Did I mention I drive 40 minutes along the coast twice a day, watching people sail on Penobscot Bay, and looking at moored boats in quiet harbors? Observing wind and waves and sunrising in the eastern sky, coming up out of the ocean beyond Vinalhaven ? Yeah, I am itching to get out there. Wife wants to too, but its not with the same drive. Remember the 'who wants to help me grow the wheat, grind the flour, bake the bread", story? She has her own things to focus on and keep her busy and when the time comes, she will plug in in a significant way to help us get this baby in the water.
Thank you all for the laughs and the guidance. Apparently I wasted alot of money in my first marriage on counselors. I could have just posted stuff here. (Sarcasm and smile). Its tough to sum up a situation in a few sentences. I've been around the block already, so I know where the potholes are, mostly. There are no ultimatums being thrown down, just some adjustment time with our new friend.
10-07-2013 05:32 PM
avenger79
Re: A mistress?

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Between work and a child on the way I am losing time with my mistress of the sea also. There has even been talk of buying a bow rider. For now I will keep my sail boat hidden in a marina far far away. I will slowly teach my child the ways of sailing when my wife is not around. Then when he is old enough and strong we will unite and destroy the evil empire! NO more stinkpots ever!!! This could back fire and I wind up solo sailing till I get eaten by a whale.
LOL the real backfire comes when they find out girls are prettier and smell better than dad.
10-07-2013 05:27 PM
RobGallagher
Re: A mistress?

I just got out of my last relationship, mainly, it ended because of the CLOCK (no, it's not a silent L).

Summer time better spent on sailing and weekend cruises.

If time comes and I'm made redundant at my job I'll take a 6-12 months and sail, even if it's just down the intercoastal and back. Then look for a new position.

When time comes for me to slow down I intend to live aboard for as long as I enjoy it.

If a time comes and I have the opportunity to work abroad I'm gonna take it. Asia calls to me.

None of this is for her. As highly intelligent, nice, generous and pretty of a person as she was, it was gonna end badly at some point anyway.
10-07-2013 05:03 PM
lapworth
Re: A mistress?

Between work and a child on the way I am losing time with my mistress of the sea also. There has even been talk of buying a bow rider. For now I will keep my sail boat hidden in a marina far far away. I will slowly teach my child the ways of sailing when my wife is not around. Then when he is old enough and strong we will unite and destroy the evil empire! NO more stinkpots ever!!! This could back fire and I wind up solo sailing till I get eaten by a whale.
10-07-2013 04:22 PM
AlaskaMC
Re: A mistress?

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well that's a new one.....we will agree to agree than. LOL
Yep crazy huh? Agreement on sailnet. Sign of the apocalypse I think.
10-07-2013 04:19 PM
avenger79
Re: A mistress?

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NO! I agree with your point totally that at the start of a relationship making these non negotiables clear is the SMART thing to do. I was pointing out when a new hobby comes into the picture it needs more gentle handling.
well that's a new one.....we will agree to agree than. LOL
10-07-2013 04:16 PM
AlaskaMC
Re: A mistress?

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totally agree with this and please understand I was not recommending my method for anyone else. cycling has been part of my life since I was 4, not optional to give it up.
NO! I agree with your point totally that at the start of a relationship making these non negotiables clear is the SMART thing to do. I was pointing out when a new hobby comes into the picture it needs more gentle handling.
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