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05-27-2008 02:00 AM
tjaldur Again, go for it. By the time I considered my son sufficiently seaworthy for taking him along as crew, he was already stuck with his own ship and his own family. (it is too early, until it is too late)
05-26-2008 12:28 AM
denby I saw this earlier and thought it strange. And it still looks strange.
05-26-2008 12:15 AM
Originally Posted by alfredjones88 View Post
Iam new to the group. i mis read the extensive information you sent me. I was apparently mistaken when I thought that a psychologist who wanted to help young people would be a welcomed endeavor. Please advise. Alfred
uhhhmmm....okay, i'll buy it
05-25-2008 10:42 PM
Originally Posted by alfredjones88 View Post
Alfred...posts promoting commercial ventures are not permitted here. Kindly desist. Cam
Iam new to the group. i mis read the extensive information you sent me. I was apparently mistaken when I thought that a psychologist who wanted to help young people would be a welcomed endeavor. Please advise. Alfred

Alfred...I HAVE advised. Commercial Venture promotion is not permitted here. Your post was NOT welcome...and I didn't send you any information. Cam
05-22-2008 11:01 PM
Originally Posted by sailingdog View Post
Glad to help CraigToo.


it's GIU!!!!!

Had to be done...

SD....Buddy ole' chum pal...With the greatest of respect...

I've seen so many GUI's (graphic user interface... which in some ways is very appropriate) and GIU's that I just can't keep track anymore...

I will await the return of our esteemed collegue from Portugal for final judgment...

'Till that point...I look forward to an old fashioned "AFOC" trial before my peers...

05-22-2008 10:47 PM
sailingdog Glad to help CraigToo.


it's GIU!!!!!

Had to be done...

05-22-2008 10:09 PM
craigtoo You Are Not Crazy....

Many of you know that there's hardly been a post from me that I don't talk about Dad.

I've never been out on my boat without my Dad...Ever...

In 34 Years, I've only been out on his boat once... without him. (He had RC duty so he watched while my sister and I sailed his homemade boat around the marks on the Wed night Magothy races without him....we apparently 'screwed it all up'.. heh )

I bought my boat in Dec 07'
We spent Dec - March fixing her up...together. (thanks again SD, Cam, Gui, FstBttms, CD, SanctuarySam, and others...this place is awesome.)

There was never a question...about the Captain thing. His Boat.. His Rules.. my Boat... My Rules... (which are slightly more conservative than his... he has no problem with that...)

(Please note: Older brothers do not fall into this category of understanding that they actually have to listen to younger brothers even if they know it's not their boat...for whatever reason older brothers will always play 'captain' regardless of who paid for the boat....)

I'll never forget the time when Dad told my Uncle (huge ALIR racer, and (Dad's older brother) who started Dad sailing... ) that I was "Really Good on the Helm"...

Just today, he and I had a long conversation about the Tragedy that hit our club on the Magothy Wed night.

Anyway... enough of this emotional nanciness...

Get on out there with DAD!

Yes you can do it. Homework is important. This week I was again reminded of how this sport / way of life can go from zero to dangerous in the blink of an eye. It shouldn't be a deterrent. It should be a reality Check...

Read Nigel Calder's books... great stuff and not really a horrible read! Nigel Calder's Cruising Handbook: A Compendium for Coastal and Offshore Sailors: Nigel Calder: Books

You *can* do it... getting ready and learning with your Dad all about new aspects of sailing/cruising to meet the goal is really half of the life experience... Heck, even if you choose to sail 10 miles on a weekend.... there and back... how awesome would that be?

... About the boat...

No one can really say what's right for you in a boat. (I got lucky and ended up with the perfect boat.. it's way better than a tri-ma-multi-cat-o-ama-floatie) (That's a litte Dig on SD and Chuckles...)

Take your Dad on the Boat Buying Journey....

Really Really think...

How long will you have this boat?
Where do you want to go?
How much time will you spend on the boat in any given "leg" of a trip?
What amenities are "must haves"?
What amenities are "nice to haves?"
What do I want my boat to look like?
How much money can I spend now?
How much money can I spend every month from now on?
What kind of beer do I like?
How "handy" am I in Boat repairs?
How "handy" do I WANT to be in boat repairs...?

There are other questions you should ponder that I'm forgetting.. but the great thing is... there's a place called... "Buying a Boat"

Best place in the world to get opinions on boat buying...

I hope this really long winded... over the top post helps you out...

All the very best,
05-22-2008 01:03 PM
Father/Son sailing program

Alfred...posts promoting commercial ventures are not permitted here. Kindly desist. Cam
05-22-2008 12:36 PM
Originally Posted by chewd View Post
I hate to be my own first reply, but after reading my post i think i should put in a little more background.

Dads an old navy man, hes lived at sea before, although its been quite some time ago. Hes an experienced doctor, very wise & very educated.

Im a licensed pilot, so im no stranger to radio navigation, reading charts, deciphering cryptic weather reports, fiddling with GPS systems, sleeping in cramped noisy places, and coping with bad weather.

We both get along very well together, and work well as a team. We both love sailing, even if its not moms cup o tea.

Seems like the adventure of a lifetime doesnt it? the kind of things people write books about!

I am going to echo the sentiments of the other responders here.
I just want to add one thought.
No matter how well you get along or how well you work together. Only one of you can be the Captain.
It may be a difficult decision but one that must be made.
When the S#!+ hits the fan only one person can be in charge.

Spend some time talking about it and make the decision before you cast off. It can mean the difference between a cherished experience and a wonderful memory or a relationship destroying fiasco.
05-22-2008 09:02 AM
alfredjones88 Edited....solicitation
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