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04-25-2009 03:33 PM
wind_magic I usually try to stay out of the "girl threads" because the ladies should have a place all their own, but this thread really strikes home for me because I am in the middle of downsizing too.

What has helped me the most is simply pretending I am already on the boat, that means cooking for myself, not jumping into my vehicle and driving to the store every time I need something, getting rid of things I won't have on the boat, and that type of thing. It isn't as easy as you might think, you'll know the first time you turn the air conditioner off and make yourself sit outside on a chair or in front of a fan.

I have also taken up activities that I would not normally be interested in, I have a bicycle to ride for example. Riding a bicycle has really helped me a lot, I have learned a lot about bike maintenance, fixed plenty of flat tires, learned to carry all the tools I need to fix it when I ride further away from home, and the like. Besides biking I also try to camp more, or at least sleep outside more, sometimes I just throw things into the back of the truck and drive somewhere and sleep under the stars just for the fun of it, I have even done this in deep winter with a huge pile of blankets!

Getting rid of actual stuff has been hard for me too, but it is getting easier. Now that I have a method to it, it seems to have taken on a life of its own, and I honestly feel better every time I get rid of something. I was and am overwhelmed with junk and I didn't realize how much of a burden it was until I started doing something about it. Getting rid of things is very liberating, and at some point you start to feel that if you take it to its logical conclusion you will be free to just walk out the front door and wander off into the world and do whatever you want to do without regrets.
03-14-2009 10:49 PM
gardeningal We still have one child in high school, so we are realistically two yrs out. Actively, looking for a boat now. I just think it would be hard to come back to your old life after cruising for a year or two, wonder what experiences others have had.
03-14-2009 09:13 AM
eryka
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Shedding the stuff is no problem, but how to you come back and go back to work? We are in our early to mid 50's and have enough savings for a year or two, but realistically will have to come back and work a few more yrs. until we can completely retire. We want to go while we are still in good health and able. We just spent a week in the sea of cortez and both of us found it hard to come back to land life, even though we both have jobs we really love.

Agree with the early post about life slowing down and needing much less. For the week, we didn't have any electronic diversions and we are both pretty hard core computer users, but didn't miss it a bit. Plenty of boats, fish, weather etc. to occupy or daydream and read.
Hi GGal, any chance you could talk your present employer into giving you an unpaid leave of absence for a year? (in this economy, they might see it as a win-win) Then the bigger challenge will be adjusting your head to coming back to work for a couple of years, but at least you'll have the comfort of a job you like to look forward to.

That said, a week may not have been a long enough test - you weren't out long enough to deal with problems like laundry, provisions, water, etc. Any way you can do a somewhat longer trial run before jumping?
03-14-2009 01:47 AM
gardeningal
how to come back to land

Shedding the stuff is no problem, but how to you come back and go back to work? We are in our early to mid 50's and have enough savings for a year or two, but realistically will have to come back and work a few more yrs. until we can completely retire. We want to go while we are still in good health and able. We just spent a week in the sea of cortez and both of us found it hard to come back to land life, even though we both have jobs we really love.

Agree with the early post about life slowing down and needing much less. For the week, we didn't have any electronic diversions and we are both pretty hard core computer users, but didn't miss it a bit. Plenty of boats, fish, weather etc. to occupy or daydream and read.
03-09-2009 07:43 PM
ystanley [QUOTE=quidam1947;459728]Ystanley,

When my kids were in the terrible teens (and also have gone through and are currently going thru again with Bruce's), my sister shared this with me and it helped so I'll share it with you.
me.Children are like dogs-loyal and affectionate

LOVE IT!!!! I never heard this before but it is sooo true!!!! Thanks for all the great advice.
03-08-2009 01:43 PM
quidam1947 Ystanley,

It appears you've got plenty of time to sort things out. And, lots of resouces here to network with in the meantime, as well. Great suggestions and empathy from lots of folks with the same dreams & nightmares.
Bruce and I are building our own boat to be our future home, and have the benefit of having done short runs of cruising (1 to 2 months out at a time) so we have a better feel for what we want and need.

Regarding the process of "shedding" -- as others have already said, ask yourself can this be useful/fit on my boat? There are some great books out there on just this subject. PM me and I'll be happy to give you a couple of names of the books we've read.

As you go through the process of shedding, make your purchase/cleaning house decision based on that principle. I determined I need one set of items for the boat and another for the land-based home (we may not be successful in selling our house in 2 or 3 years, so I may resort to renting it out semi-furnished as an option).

Along this same line of thought, you may want to consider long-term storage. I have some things (heirlooms and artwork I've collected over the years) that I'm NOT willing to sell/giveaway/toss. And Bruce has some expensive machine tools he's keeping. So we've decided to purchase a shipping container and put most of this sort of stuff in it and a friend who has a farm is allowing us to store it there. Other things, like the family heirlooms I'll be asking my family members to 'hold onto' for safe-keeping.

We know we most likely won't physically be able to stay out there forever, and when and if we decide times up, we'll find some remote property and build a small cabin (off the grid is our preference) and move our stuff into it. Planning for that day is a separate kitty.

I've also got a fairly detailed letter of instruction about where all this stuff is, and what to do with it in case something happens to us/me out there (probably a topic for some other thread).

Light At the End of the Tunnel:
I have 2 kids (adopted my late husband's children when they were preteens), a son 29 that I'm not on speaking terms, and a daughter 27 who is married with 2 kids (grandkids ages 9 & 6) and I get along with just fine. My significant other, Bruce has 4 great kids (2 girls 16, 17, and 2 boys 23 & 29). Most of the time they want to come with us (vacations), and this may very well be the case with you and/or perhaps your grandkids can, too.

When my kids were in the terrible teens (and also have gone through and are currently going thru again with Bruce's), my sister shared this with me and it helped so I'll share it with you.
me.Children are like dogs-loyal and affectionate

Keep positive, and as others have also said... its worth it!

Michele
03-08-2009 12:57 PM
eryka
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After reading through the whole thread I have one concern.... Exactly why do you need supositories??
Well, if you're reeeally reeeally seasick, so seasick that you barf your nausea meds before they've been in your system long enough to do you any good, you've got to find another way to get and keep the drugs in your system.
03-07-2009 01:54 PM
OrioninHawaii Well 5+ years ago when we sold the house and bought our 48' celestial I told my dad I didn't want to be 80 years old and wonder what would it have been like if we had done it. I must admit it was a struggle at first - all those lovely things! And now? I find it gets easier each year- I put stuff I thought I couldn't live without into storage (just in case) and my son has enjoyed visiting his mother in Hawaii...but it's still a trade-off and I know other cruisers who end up missing the holiday-grandkid scenario...
I will say my husband and I have gotten closer because our lives are much simpler. Sailaway makes a great point about age- I'm glad we did it and have no regrets...
02-22-2009 04:59 PM
bubb2
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Originally Posted by sailaway21 View Post
Don't get that old.
One of the things that my mother said to me after, heart bypass, stoke, stints, diabetes,. You know this getting old stuff, ain't for cowards!!!
02-22-2009 04:45 PM
sailaway21
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It wouldn't let me post the link....
One more post (10) and it will.

I did want to address the kids aspect of all this. Your kids don't visit? I'm thinking you might want to look back and review how life was when you were in your twenties. If you were much like me, visiting mom and pop wasn't the most scintillating of items on my social schedule! Now when they have kids, they'll be calling. (g) This is actually a good time to go, before you start wanting to be there for those grandkid's arrivals.

As to "things", a boat will make you look at your kitchen anew. How many specialized appliances do you have that can be eliminated and their functions filled by a pot and a fry pan? (I once lived for six months with only an electric skillet for cooking. Boil the coffee water in it first, then fry the bacon!)

Another factor is that a lot of people launch into these things when their physical prowess is already well on the wane. There is a certain amount of physical activity that will be less than tolerant of age's advancing infirmities. In a perfect world we all cruise for a few years when we're twenty and then spend the rest of our life talking about it. In the real world, we wait until the comforts of home make the enjoyment of the cruising less. Don't get that old.
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