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|10-11-2009 10:13 AM|
I had originally planned on sailing south to Isla Margarita, thence straight the the ABC Islands and then Panama, but now I am debating heading westwards in the northern islands and jumping from Jamaica to Panama. That passage isn't too long and while the Caribbean sea can be uncomfortable I think that I can wait for a good window as I'll be in no great hurry.
I would think that the once south of Guadeloupe it makes sense to stay away from secluded anchorages as a singlehander.
|10-10-2009 05:43 PM|
Sorry to hijack the thread a bit...
Originally Posted by Zanshin View Post
I am planning to singlehand in the Bahamas and perhaps on to VI's, then to the canal and on to the west coast. What route to Panama are you taking? ..would you recommend? Being a woman alone, I'm nervous about the coasts of Venezuala/Columbia.
|10-10-2009 04:06 PM|
Miss Gail ,
What precludes you from sending your " friend " on some fool's errand & letting him return to find his things on the dock & the boat gone ??? Being sociopathic does not necessarily make you a bad person .
|10-10-2009 02:43 PM|
IMO you just have to take a firm line with your "friend" and draw some boundaries including offloading him & his guests for those periods ... not easy, but it's a clear decision from what I'm seeing/reading.
|10-08-2009 11:14 PM|
Krozet, yes I did tell my friend about my displeasure that he was inviting extra guests, and he brushed off my concerns, saying they were only coming for short visits, 5 days at a time, and we were going to be on the boat for six weeks, so two weeks of having guests is not a big deal.... I pointed out my goals for this six weeks one of which is to write the rough draft of a book I've been wanting to find the time to write for a number of years now. He said they are his guests and he will take the responsibility to keep them entertained. He says they are people that I will enjoy meeting, that I will have a lot in common with, etc. Bottom line is, this is not how I envisioned I would spend this time.
Volkhard, I think you have hit the nail on the head. Absolutely I'm stuck being the captain while my friend is the hero.
TQA, you bring up an interesting problem that I had not considered, and I can certainly see how the situation can look like I am chartering without a license. Unfortunately the reality is that I don't expect to be compensated for my "services" which include taking responsibility for their safety while they are aboard my boat. I can just imagine them taking long showers and using up all the fresh water on board which I will have to pay to replace.
I like the idea of them staying ashore during their visits which will give me the private time I'm looking for to pursue my individual goals. I really don't want the hassle of adding them to the crew list then taking them off. The fewer visits to Customs and Immigration the better.
|10-07-2009 02:56 PM|
I’m new to this forum and I’ve enjoyed this and want to join in
If it where me, I’d use your idea of telling him to stay on shore when friends are visiting.
If that expense does not obstruct his exploits, I’d tell him the truth.
Live is too short to put up with two months of misery
|10-07-2009 02:10 PM|
|sailingdog||I'd point out that if you didn't invite the person, you don't have a responsibility to host them.|
|10-07-2009 01:53 PM|
Are you sure this guys a friend?
Originally Posted by aerie View Post
Most of the friends I know, don't invite a bunch of strangers on trips on a boat that is not theirs.
So I ask again, are you sure this guys a "friend"?
Also we are going to be in BVI in January. If you're still around we would love to meet up share a drink and some adventure stories.
|10-07-2009 10:05 AM|
Be careful about changing crew in a French island. They can decide you are chartering without a licence. What happens next varies but expect a couple of days wait at a minimum.
In your case this is more likely as your boat is a [ex?] charter boat.
|10-05-2009 08:42 PM|
My experience is that a "friend" like this allways brings bad karma along maybe just due to your own displeasure or it really is bad juju. I had one of these friends come to Housotn and go sailing with me and had blown a head gasket in my engine and my head and about a half dozen other things go wrong. Another friend invited himself a couple months later and all the sudden had carb and fuel pump issues. Oh yeah the engine was only two months old. Then they both thought they could fix the issues better than I could and had to just let them tinker for a couple hours before I could make them believe that my diagnosis was correct. Aughhhhh.
I would just drop the ball on him and say enjoy your flight and get a hotel/resort. I know thats easier said than done but I can already tell from you post that you are stressing over this and just think to yourself about how you are going to feel when the time comes. This is your dream and will be your reality. Just my opinion and you know what they say about opinions.
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