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|05-11-2011 08:27 PM|
While most of the advice you have gotten is sound, the most important thing is not to take it personally. The chemistry was not there for him.....period. Thats enough of a reason for him to want you off, and thats no slight on you.
I dont think its necessary to find out why, just be comfortable in yourself. You dont need to learn how to interview 10 times better, because thats something you cannot do in reality, however you can in your own mind. We all work harder than the guys beside us....we all think that way too.
I agree with Rockdawgs advice about checking in with your boss,,,captain,,person who makes the decisions to see if you are on the right track and ask for things to improve yourself and your fit into whatever "team" you are joining.
The most important thing though...and this is what I mentor my 45 managers with is to feel comfortable about who you are, not try and fit some preperscribed mold. Many of us search for that opne person to feel comfortable with in our lives....the same is to be said about the job you take,, and even the adventure you had planned. This captain didnt feel the chemistry...so better to find out nowthan the Azores or in the middle of the Atlantic, Nothing wrong with you mate......just wasnt meant to be. Find another ship...another captain.
|05-11-2011 06:48 PM|
I suspect that it's his way of chickening out of a North Atlantic crossing.
|05-11-2011 06:01 PM|
Originally Posted by eherlihy View Post
|05-11-2011 05:41 PM|
Here is the captain with his replacement crew:
He says that she's VERY useful....
Be glad that you found out sooner, rather than later.
|05-11-2011 05:07 PM|
|Sublime||Did you, by chance, harpoon a dolphin?|
|05-11-2011 01:59 PM|
|bljones||You made less than 100 miles in 5 days. In fact, over land, you could be back where you started in under an hour. Count your blessings that the captain made the decision when he did.|
|05-11-2011 01:55 PM|
|Skipper Jer||Better there than being dropped off in the Azores.|
|05-11-2011 01:55 PM|
Originally Posted by Faster View Post
|05-11-2011 01:48 PM|
You're probably actually lucky... these kinds of situations need to be sorted out before there's 'no point of return'.
Regardless of the source or reason for either party's dissatisfaction, leaving port on an extended leg with any question marks has a potential for disaster. It would likely have been a situation that deteriorated over time.
Not judging either of you; simply saying that better now when you are able to 'step off' than later when the only option is to be thrown off!!
|05-11-2011 01:39 PM|
When I was a young man, being in a different from everyone around me. I knew i have to try harder than everyone else. Being handicapped in many ways, I must have a better GPA and 10 time better interview skills than anyone else before I would have a job offer. This propelled me to work hard, since then I have never needed to find a job. Jobs will seek me; and i named my own salary.
When I was starting out, after being on the job for 2 weeks or so, I often set up an appointment to sit down with my boss to discuss his expectation and my performance. I made sure he was happy with me. Now i mentor all my employees and my children this way.
Don't look at it as a setback, look at it as a lesson for bigger things in life. Don't sweat the little thing, focus on the objective - Sail
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