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06-01-2011 10:13 PM
deniseO30 I'll be there! Hope Hank can make it
06-01-2011 04:59 PM
chef2sail Dave is right about that. We have always have good get togethers.

Who can forget the Shauns seafood fest...or his pig
Who could forget Waynes drink
Who could forget Jayne and Dans kobos with the neat holders..or Dans Pineappple wedger

There were countless others who brought great eats too.

Denise will be there by the way. We are planning for her and Hank to come down earlier in the day and go out for a small sail with us to welcome other in

06-01-2011 04:46 PM
SVAuspicious Denise -

Be sure to come to MYC for the next Chesapeake gathering. You'll see people who pitch in.

best, dave
06-01-2011 02:44 PM
deniseO30 Funny I'm in a small Victorian group and those pot lucks and gatherings at my house go well. Also when I've had house parties they've gone very well! I've always been rather organized about such things. I just have to resign myself to the fact that I've cheap friends. One said he'd bring burgers one time, knew it was about 8 people coming, brought 4 burgers LOL.
This thread is helping me realize how cheap most of my friends are!
06-01-2011 02:37 PM
MikeWhy Well... part of the reason for parties, as distinct from smaller get-togethers, is to expand your social circle, maybe get to know folks you might not otherwise have met. Not that I'm a social butterfly by any means, but it does appear possible that even my preference for solitude dims in comparison to those who self-selected themselves for the solitude of off-shore cruising.
06-01-2011 02:33 PM
richardbur10 Question, are any of your friends on this forum?
06-01-2011 02:28 PM
Sublime Parties need to be organized or else you get the results you're getting.

Make a list of items needed and send it out to everyone invited. Ask them to put their name besides what they're bringing and to reply to everyone when they add their name.

Get new friends? Over this?
06-01-2011 02:16 PM
Originally Posted by eherlihy View Post
Sawingknots, please stay home, etc...
where did you read that i had any intention of honoring you with my presence,i do have standards[sorry denise i didn't intend to go off topic]
06-01-2011 02:04 PM
AdamLein I'm a little surprised to hear the number of "Get new friends" suggestions, which initially I assumed were in jest. I'd like to think that the reason people form friendships is because both parties think they get something from the interaction besides cost-sharing on food and drink.

Sure, if these friends are not valuable to you, go ahead and get new ones. My experience is that getting new friends is not a trivial process and requires some work, and if you don't put that work in, you get the sort of friends that make you want to get new friends pretty soon. If these particular friends are valuable, you need to talk to them like they're adults, or you need to modify your expectations about your relationship.

Personally I think that if throwing parties is a source of stress for you, don't do it. It's a source of stress for me, so I don't do it, and instead I go to other peoples' parties and bring something with me.
06-01-2011 01:47 PM
Originally Posted by SailKing1 View Post
When throwing a party I always provide the food and necessary items to enjoy. I'll even provide mixers, coolers and plenty of ice, throw in a couple mixers for making frozen drinks, and even occasionally live music, but not the alcohol. It is always bring your own alcohol. The reason is simple, by not providing it, i am not responsible for your being irresponsible.
This is the proper way to host. sans the "So I am not responsible" curmudgeon part.

I believe that the problem the OP is having stems from communication rather than lousy guests.
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