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08-16-2011 03:53 AM
75R20 Sorry, but I'm 100% man and I say "your over-thinking it"
You have never said "he's stupid" so I'll assume he is not. IF he needs to use the radio......he'll figure it out.
Does he really need to read the chart ???? Really ? he'll figure it out, if needed.
Do you think you are an enabler.........I do.
YOU make him sound stupid, and I bet he's not......
Both He and I sail to relax, and a host of other reasons. Our reasons don't have to be the same as your reasons........leave "OUR" reasons alone and we'll leave your reasons alone.

P.s. My wife/life partner just read this and after she stopped laughing.......she said you need a different hobby. She completely agreed with me. Her words.....not mine.
Best of luck....
Kary
S/V Mariah
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08-16-2011 03:45 AM
sailguy40 Here is my take on getting someone interested in sailing... I for one give up trying to get a girlfriend or any of my friends at that interested in sailing. The whole fantasy of me doing something like this with some super sailing woman is just a dream... Honeymoon Crosses the Ocean - YouTube Anyone ever seen these videos? This couple named their boat the "Honeymoon" and basically sailed the globe. They went all over the place and its recorded in several videos! Their last video from Brissy to Sydney is just priceless.

Problem is I have found my girlfriends, friends and family are just NOT hardcore enough. Sailing I guess takes a little love for it, toughness and bravery that most people simply lack. My last girlfriend who claimed to be sea and had all these fantasies of sailing away with me, I am afraid was simply not cut out for it.

There was a reason why I knew I had to learn how to single hand very well and that is because if I want to sail, and really sail, I think it will be 75% of the time single handed. Good thing for me that I have learned. I may actually be casting off for the Gulf Islands by the end of this week, half the trip looks like it will be single handed.

This all said, I now realize the reality of it all and that simply is... the woman who will sail away with me is not a girlfriend or wife at all, rather its the very boat I own or will own. She is the one who will never give up, who will go the full length, and fulfill our dreams. The average person is just not cut out for all of this. Heck many of my friends complain about hot weather and they, just as I am, were born and raised in the south so go figure. I can sail all day in 95 degree temps.

One sure way to convert almost anyone regardless of their desire or fear is to have a yacht like this... SPCruiser: Island Packet Yachts Then its like they can be in their high class luxury suite, in the AC and watching TV or showering. Check the photo gallery of this gorgeous boat and see what I mean. Me, I will own what I want and certainly won't ever buy something to try and get others to come sailing. As my boat, Tropic Spirit is plenty nice and clean inside out and very comfortable for a weekend trip. She is more then enough for two or even four people provided two are a couple as the v-birth is close sleeping quarters.

At last, hats off though to the newly weds in that youtube video, they really have lived the dream that I am sure many of us on here would love to live. I find it amazing that I have to beg some people to break routine and just have fun for a change. Its like... Hey! Go ahead and live sometimes, its not a crime and you wont get in trouble for it.
08-16-2011 02:31 AM
SloopJonB I want to know why you left it until Saturday morning. You should have gone down Friday night and slept on the boat so you could be SAILING at 08:30.
08-05-2011 10:04 PM
WDS123 San Diego,


He might be secretly letting you sail because he wants you to be able to stand the 0100-0500 watch alone one day.
08-05-2011 02:22 PM
flbkroxie
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Or, maybe I'm just sulking because I would like to be the boat fluff every once in a while.
Sorry to enter this thread so late, but haven't been on this forum for awhile. I had a similar situation, but on a much smaller scale. My husband and I recently learned to sail together and now own a small sailboat. When we first started we shared all responsibilities, however recently he likes to do all the motoring and leaves the sailing to me, thinking that I'm the "better" sailor. So when we go out I do most of the work once we're out of the harbor. I don't mind so much, but when we have guests I would like to relax a bit and enjoy their company, and not have to worry about a busy San Diego bay full of boats, ships, and barges.

It all changed a few weeks ago when I invited a friend who was a very good sailor and had once owned a boat similar to ours. I gave the tiller to him and never took it back. He and hubby shared in the sailing and I think it gave my husband back the confidence that he had lost somewhere along the line.

Now he shares in the sailing and I have learned to do a better job of motoring and docking. I must admit that it was so much fun to have a glass of wine, sit back, relax, and leave the sailing to someone else! This probably doesn't help you at all in your situation, but just wanted to let you know that you are not alone in wanting to be "boat fluff" once in awhile.
07-18-2011 11:20 PM
wingNwing
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Originally Posted by junkrig View Post
Let me second that. When Gloria and I leave here for her family home in North Dakota, 700-some miles away, she's thinking "Grand Forks." I'm thinking "Hamilton, MO," forty miles away. We both have the same goal, I just like lots of little successes.
There's some philosophy here that's transferable to life as a whole, not just sailing.
07-18-2011 10:47 PM
junkrig
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Originally Posted by WDSchock View Post
Donna,

Don't fret if he likes going buoy to buoy.


He might be quitely thinking you are wandering all over the channel
Let me second that. When Gloria and I leave here for her family home in North Dakota, 700-some miles away, she's thinking "Grand Forks." I'm thinking "Hamilton, MO," forty miles away. We both have the same goal, I just like lots of little successes.
07-18-2011 10:46 PM
DRFerron
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Originally Posted by WDSchock View Post
Donna,

Don't fret if he likes going buoy to buoy.
He might be quitely thinking you are wandering all over the channel
HA! I didn't think of that. I can bring up the Polar Navy tracks to prove that I was NOT.
07-18-2011 10:34 PM
WDS123 Donna,

Don't fret if he likes going buoy to buoy.


He might be quitely thinking you are wandering all over the channel
07-16-2011 05:55 AM
MikeWhy Donna, I was thinking more along the lines of allowing him to own responsibility for some trips, rather than continually deferring to you for decisions. I don't know him or his abilities at all, of course. He'll have to grow into the new roles, if that's what it takes.

In my daily life, I only manage to keep the waist line under control by delegating enough work to others so I can take mid-day bicycle rides. This only deepens my farmer's tan, but that's a different story.
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