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05-12-2016 04:51 PM
Re: Kids or cruising first?

Interesting perspective and thanks for the follow up for letting everyone know which way you guys went.

My wife and I are expecting our first child in September (So.Freaking.Excited). We're hoping to go cruising post hurricane season 2017. I think the addition of a kid will make the whole experience much more rewarding.

Young kids while cruising will allow us to actually get to raise our child ourselves instead of paying someone else to raise him until he's school aged. Then depend on a teacher to raise him the majority of the day after that. Cruising will allow both of us the opportunity to get to know our child better than a land based life will and raise him in the manner we see fit. We'll be able to instill in him values that we think are important for good adult humans to have.
05-12-2016 04:01 PM
Re: Kids or cruising first?

Definitely go now. Kids are great, but going just the two of you sounds like the most straightforward option. Once kids enter the picture, you'll have a better sense of whether cruising as a family is a good fit for you.
05-04-2016 10:37 PM
Re: Kids or cruising first?

Originally Posted by Swift Drift View Post
Another vote for go now! If it's for you guys, you'll love it enough so that you'll find a way to do it with kids as well. I'm in a somewhat similar position. My mantra is the more you can establish as a lifestyle prior to kids, the better chance that lifestyle is a reality when you have kids. My parents did cool stuff with me (sailing being one of them) and I couldn't imagine not giving kids a similar experience.Seen too many people get bogged down in middle aged kid raising activities and ultimately postponed some huge dreams until retirement..... And it doesn't have to be that way!
Well said!
04-07-2016 11:31 PM
Re: Kids or cruising first?

e went pre kids. I'd just turned 32 and wife 29 when we left. Had a great time on our W32 through French Polynesia. Wife came down with our first son on Moorea so we sailed back to Kona. Plenty of time to establish a career and raise the kids. Only regret was not leaving sooner. If you wait you fall into that twilight zone where you'll be too old to be marketable in the business world If you decide to rejoin the real world and the possibility of fate playing you a dirty trick.
04-07-2016 09:12 AM
Re: Kids or cruising first?

Originally Posted by Sal Paradise View Post
Hey! Thanks for the check back!! Where did you go?
South & north & south & starting to go north again Further south point was St Anne, Martinique. Furthest north since we started was the Magdalen Islands in the Gulf of St Lawrence. We've got a blog with lots of photos if you're interested:

First Trip South
Started in Penetang on Georgian Bay, Lake Huron on Sept 22, 2014.
Thru Lake Huron & Erie, then the Welland Canal.
Toronto then down the Oswego & Erie Canals and out the Hudson to Atlantic Highlands, NJ
2 days outside to Hampton, VA (first removal of toques!)
Sally Dawg Rally to North Sound, BVIs
Slept for most of 2 weeks

Hung out for ~3 months between the BVIs and USVI. Then Culebra, Puerto Rico's south shore, Bahamas (Mayaguana, Long Island, Georgetown, Exumas, Eleuthera, Abacos)

Back North
Marsh Harbour to Beaufort, NC.
Then quickly to Isle Madame, Cape Breton, Nova Scotia to leave the boat and fly to a wedding, via Atlantic City & Martha's Vineyard.
After visiting with family / enjoying indoor showers again we did a loop :
- Canso Causeway
- Magdalen Islands
- Around the north end of Cape Breton to Ingonish
- Thru Bras d'Or

South Again
After another wedding in September:
- Cape Breton -> Newport, RI
- NYC for a week
- Through the Delaware & Chesapeake, including the Annapolis Boat Show
- SDR again out of Hampton, VA
- 1 month in USVI/BVIs
- St Martin
- Antigua & Barbuda
- Guadeloupe & Les Saintes
- Martinique
- St Barth's

And we're back in the USVI now with guests visiting. Should start the trek north by hopping to Culebra next week. We'll go through PR and the Bahamas and probably just make a few stops on the US east coast.

Still debating whether to be on the Great Lakes in July to enjoy them or whether to go to Newfoundland and up the St Lawrence.
04-06-2016 01:46 PM
Sal Paradise
Re: Kids or cruising first?

Hey! Thanks for the check back!! Where did you go?
04-04-2016 11:29 AM
Re: Kids or cruising first?

Thank you so much for the follow up. We don't often find out how an OP ended up down the road.
04-04-2016 09:22 AM
Re: Kids or cruising first?

Thanks all for the advice but it's been 4.5 years since I posted this so the decisions have mostly been made. We did our cruise as a couple while we're young-ish and not too committed to anything. We'll have lived on the boat for about 2.5 years before we have to go back to land life and be responsible money earners for a bit. It's been a great chapter in our lives but I am looking forward to having a real flush toilet and fridge that isn't top loading.
04-03-2016 09:13 PM
Re: Kids or cruising first?

Family is great! If the budget runs a bit low you can sell the kids one by one.

04-03-2016 09:03 PM
joelpackard Go now. So much is easier without kids. If they come along during the voyage, so be it.
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