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11-13-2012 12:49 PM
Re: Too good to be true??? Help me ASAP!!

I've been buying & selling stuff privately quite a bit over the past couple of years and I find ignorant discourtesy to be the majority of responses - probably around 60%.

How tough is is to call and cancel a meet? I can't tell you the number of times I've arranged my schedule or waited around to meet someone and they simply don't show up or call.

Unthinking rudeness seems to be rapidly becoming the new normal.

By the way, I ALWAYS show up when I say I will and I ALWAYS call if I later decide against a purchase after a viewing.
11-13-2012 11:50 AM
jaymckay Well thanks bl, its nice to know some ppl these days can still hold themselves humbly. Apology accepted
11-13-2012 08:04 AM
Re: Too good to be true??? Help me ASAP!!

Originally Posted by jaymckay View Post
this guy PREFERRED emails he personally told me.
Thanks for coming back and providing the rest of the story, jay. New information changes the perception of the situation.
I apologize. In light of this new information, your email to bail was neither cowardly nor discourteous.
11-12-2012 09:20 PM
Re: Too good to be true??? Help me ASAP!!

he gained his money cuz he sold the boat!! almost immediately after. i paid no deposit.
11-12-2012 09:13 PM
Re: Too good to be true??? Help me ASAP!!

dang bljones and smack!!! haha i totally forgot about this until today and all of a sudden its virtual war on my thread!!!!

i dont get offended by being name called over the internet.. although shame on you haha

i was new,, didnt wanna jump in something so serious,, i dunno,, just kinda backed out,, that inner voice whispering "not yet". and this guy PREFERRED emails he personally told me. haha

haha i love the enthusiasm in all your posts..
08-18-2012 11:53 AM
Re: Too good to be true??? Help me ASAP!!

Interesting thread....wish I had seen it a Catalina 25 owner maybe I could have been help to Jay.

What happened to the C25? The ad seems to be gone. I wonder if the owner sold it, or just took down the ad due to a bad experience.

Jay, do you know?
08-18-2012 11:18 AM
Re: Too good to be true??? Help me ASAP!!

So, now Smackdaddy is the rules and etiquette maven? I'm sooooo confused.
08-18-2012 11:18 AM
Re: Too good to be true??? Help me ASAP!!

Oh good lord, smack, don't be such a drama queen.
I'm not "picking on the kid."
Quit blowing things out of proportion.
if I edit the word "cowardly" out of my post, are you still going to feel that i am "picking on the kid" because the word "discourteous" is still there?
08-18-2012 11:04 AM
Re: Too good to be true??? Help me ASAP!!

Originally Posted by davidpm View Post
How did he gain his money?
did you forfeit a deposit.
So, back to the thread...jaym, I was wondering about this too.
08-18-2012 11:01 AM
Re: Too good to be true??? Help me ASAP!!

Originally Posted by bljones View Post
I've got no problem with honesty, Smack. Here's some right back at you- Some old hands here are concerned with retaining newbies- do you think that this kind of thread hijacking and infighting helps?
Next time, feel free to send me a pm on how to improve my style, instead of further derailing a thread.
I don't do PMs, especially on this kind of thing. And that's for exactly the reason you mention above. If not-entirely-deserving newbs are getting hammered on by a long-time member here, it's good for those newbs to know that other long-time members (not just mods) have their backs to some degree. That kind of "hijacking" and "infighting" absolutely helps. Otherwise a place becomes a clique. And who wants that?

Originally Posted by bljones View Post
Before this pile gets any higher or more odiferous, let's clarify- I did not call the OP a coward, as has been alleged- I said IMO, that the act of emailing the day of sea trial is discourteous and cowardly.
No one took it the way you're now trying to spin it (look at the posts above). So maybe you need to work on your delivery. To wit...

Originally Posted by bljones View Post
Is it "none of my business"? Maybe bad form and bad practices going unremarked is what causes some, especially newbies, to become known, as Minne puts it, as a "bad buyer" and since this a forum for advice, I offer mine, because I DON'T want this newbie to end up losing a boat he really wants because he inadvertently pisses a seller off.
So, in reality, you only have this newb's best interest at heart. And you were simply pointing out that his actions could be perceived as "cowardly" in order to help him and other newbs avoid potential heartache in their boat buying endeavors. Sounds like you're actually a really good guy and we just misunderstood your true intent. Maybe next time you should say all that in the beginning.

After all you wouldn't want to be in that camp where...

Originally Posted by bljones View Post
Brave men sometimes do cowardly things. picking on newbs and chicks.
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