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10-05-2012 08:08 PM
Re: "Can I Go With this weekend..?"

HAH. Mine won't hardly go near my boat. She's been sailing for 25+ years with her family. Spent many winters sailing around the caribbean, done various types of racing up to and including some long distance stuff, been offshore in major storms and 20' seas. She's got tons of experience sailing as she grew up in a sailing family.

Me... I've been sailing since December when I bought my very first boat which is 40 years old I had very little prior experience. Finally decided to take the plunge after a two day trip on her parent's boat out east. We had some stressful moments the first few times I took it out with her and she just decided she wasn't interested in going and hasn't been near the boat in months.

She says, "Ugh, I am so done with sailing. I want a powerboat."

I think she needs to see me get more confident and better skilled with my boat before she's comfortable with me on it. She's been extremely supportive of me going on my own or with friends.

She did offer to go out this weekend with me and a non-sailer friend for the SF fleet week this weekend. I suggested this would be a bit crazy for her reintroduction to the boat but well... either she'll gain a lot of confidence in me or I'll be doing another year of single handed sailing with her encouragement. Either way I'm good.
10-05-2012 01:35 AM
Re: "Can I Go With this weekend..?"

"go with"? Go with what? Is this related to
10-05-2012 12:29 AM
Re: "Can I Go With this weekend..?"

And best of all, find a mate that does not have issues.
10-04-2012 07:12 PM
Re: "Can I Go With this weekend..?"

Its all about patienence and positive experiences. My wife like the boat and loves anchoring every weeken in a new cove on the Chessie. She enjoys the sail there and takes the helm 1/4 of the time at least now. She not fond of heavy winds, but not afarid of them as she ws in the beginning. It is our time top be togther without the distractions of home, work, or family.

Gradually I have introduced her to crusining the summer to where we take a long 3 week trip up the coast to the LI Sound and New England. She actively participates in "running" the boat. As she has slowly gained confidence in herself and he skills she likes it more and more.

Even though I am a type A it is the one place that wont work so patience and steps is the work here. Positive experiences lead to more positive experiences.

10-04-2012 05:22 PM
g0twind I am very lucky my finance likes sailing as much as she does. She even suggested we have a nautical themed wedding!
10-04-2012 03:33 PM
Re: "Can I Go With this weekend..?"

Originally Posted by SchockT View Post
Remember, it's not yelling, it is " communicating loudly" or "conveying a sense of urgency"!
Just told my wife the difference. She said nice try, but it still sounds like yelling to her.
10-04-2012 03:28 PM
Re: "Can I Go With this weekend..?"

My wife and Carbon's would likely get along. She loves sitting at the marina.

My proudest moment sailing was backing into a transient slip in Annapolis while an entire restaurant dock was watching. I got us in the slip fine, but the piling we had to get the bow line around was about 10 ft away. After multiple attempts by the wife and even pulling out of the slip to snag the piling as we backed past it, she finally looped it. All in all probably took about 15 minutes and I didn’t raise my voice once.
10-04-2012 03:27 PM
Re: "Can I Go With this weekend..?"

I was lucky, I met my wife when she crewed on my race boat! For me the problem is finding a way to get out on the boat without her once in a while! It is nice to get out with "the Guys" sometimes!

Remember, it's not yelling, it is " communicating loudly" or "conveying a sense of urgency"!
10-04-2012 03:19 PM
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My wife loves to come down to the boat and relax; she would prefer that it never leave the mooring.
10-04-2012 01:07 PM
Re: "Can I Go With this weekend..?"

I let her drive... Now I call her "A Tiller the Hun"...(ny bunny)
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