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11-15-2012 03:18 PM
Capt.aaron
Re: The Cruising Community

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Originally Posted by Cruisingdad View Post
Hey Aaaron,

I doubt we will stay much if at all in Key West. We will probably reside a bit in Marathon. We like Key West, but about 500, we have the kids out of there. It is a better joint for adults than kids. I know there are exceptions to that, but its just our opinion. We do love the butterfly consortium though. Ever done that? I thought it would be a total waste, but I was shocked at how cool that was.

Anyways, does not mean we won't get together. I just may come in via a car or not stay long in KW. If I was without kids though, it would be tough to leave it because Marathon can be pretty sleepy!!! Not to mention, someone has to teach Gary how to play chopsticks on the keyboard.

On the flip side, if you want to come to the Tortugas, let me know. Would be love to catch up. Looks like we have quite a few boats going... or at least that say they are going. That will make it a lot of fun!!!

Brian
Well, I agree, it's an adult playground. This place Dantes on the dock's by the Half Shell is very family freindly on the weekday's. Big pool with a water fall and table service poolside, we should do lunch/ cocktail hour or something. It's nice place to make home base for the day if you come down from Marathon. Get a table, let the kid's splash around, and you can run around town and get some chores done, it's what we do when family with kid's visit. As for the Fort, my sailboat is in restoration mode, just got the mast up and will be painting the deck's on my time off, Wife work's full time. Might be able to run my Dive boat out there for a visit. ( not very sailnetty), we'll see, What are the dates again? Def. want to go. We take the ferry out there to camp sometimes as well, so we'll see. We rafted up out there for a whole summer when I was 13 and It's one of my fondest memory's. We like the butterfly place to. It's great the first 3 times then it get's kind of sleepy. Either way I'll PM my # when I get back to land.
11-15-2012 01:26 PM
Cruisingdad
Re: The Cruising Community

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Originally Posted by caberg View Post
Thanks, Brian! Great post up above re: how you got to where you are. This especially stood out for me, as I do contemplate this:



It's not entirely outside the realm of possibility if I were to get a bit creative within my field of work. Right now, the goal is to start establishing goals, and this is obviously a big key to the puzzle.

I think I'll share this post with my wife. We're very bored and unfulfilled with the 9-5, but she's more cautious than me when it comes to making significant life changes. She's "on board" (ha!) but needs to feel reasonably comfortable that we won't perish in a debtor's prison.

And please do alert us when "The Guide to Living Aboard... and boating with children" is published. I've read a number of books on living aboard/cruising, but none specific to children. Just finished "A Sail of Two Idiots" (a couple cruising Caribbean for 3 years), which was interesting, but honestly they seemed to give a mixed review on it all.

Anyway, thanks again for sharing!!
You got it my friend.

Brian
11-15-2012 01:25 PM
Cruisingdad
Re: The Cruising Community

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Originally Posted by svHyLyte View Post
Not too long ago, my (much) better half and I went to a mall that was landscaped with trees, flower beds and a couple of fountains/reflecting pools. While sitting in front of a Starbucks having an exorbitantly priced cup of coffee, we watched the passing parade including one young woman, hurrying along, head buried in an i-something or another, 'texting" away like mad with both hands. "Betcha she walks right into the fountain", I said. "Daddy, you're always so negative about kids" responds (much) better half. Not less than 2 seconds later, it became clear she was likely going into the fountain without a radical course change. We called out to her, quite loudly, without a response (even by texters in adjoining tables save one who looked very irritated) and then "BOOM". She hit the little parapet around the fountain and went flying. Rather than put her arms out to protect herself, however, she did a kind of half twist and extended the arm still clutching the i-something. She landed on her back and all but submerged but her extended arm/hand kept the i-something out of the water! We rushed over to help her as she emerged, sputtering and cusing up a storm that turned the air blue. "I'm okay" she declared, "and my phone didn't get wet". I retrieved her purse, which had gone floating off in the mini-tidal wave generated by her landing and with that she went squishing off, texting yet again, leaving little puddles in her wake.

I started to say something but (much) better rudely half cut me of. "Don't say a single word" she hissed.

"What? Me?" "All I was going to suggest was that maybe she might want to try i-sight when walking around, No?"

"Very funny--go finish your coffee!"

And that's the way it is these daze...
And even scarrier when they get behind the wheel...

Brian
11-15-2012 01:04 PM
svHyLyte
Re: The Cruising Community

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Originally Posted by Cruisingdad View Post
Amen, Brother Gary, Amen!!

So, I went to get my haircut the other day at the barber shop locally. I am sitting there with four other college kids (I am right beside USFSP). They are all tied into their phones - texting or getting on the internet, etc. THey never look at each other. They never talk. I am not sure why the magazines are there, none of them look at them.

....
Not too long ago, my (much) better half and I went to a mall that was landscaped with trees, flower beds and a couple of fountains/reflecting pools. While sitting in front of a Starbucks having an exorbitantly priced cup of coffee, we watched the passing parade including one young woman, hurrying along, head buried in an i-something or another, 'texting" away like mad with both hands. "Betcha she walks right into the fountain", I said. "Daddy, you're always so negative about kids" responds (much) better half. Not less than 2 seconds later, it became clear she was likely going into the fountain without a radical course change. We called out to her, quite loudly, without a response (even by texters in adjoining tables save one who looked very irritated) and then "BOOM". She hit the little parapet around the fountain and went flying. Rather than put her arms out to protect herself, however, she did a kind of half twist and extended the arm still clutching the i-something. She landed on her back and all but submerged but her extended arm/hand kept the i-something out of the water! We rushed over to help her as she emerged, sputtering and cusing up a storm that turned the air blue. "I'm okay" she declared, "and my phone didn't get wet". I retrieved her purse, which had gone floating off in the mini-tidal wave generated by her landing and with that she went squishing off, texting yet again, leaving little puddles in her wake.

I started to say something but (much) better rudely half cut me of. "Don't say a single word" she hissed.

"What? Me?" "All I was going to suggest was that maybe she might want to try i-sight when walking around, No?"

"Very funny--go finish your coffee!"

And that's the way it is these daze...
11-15-2012 01:00 PM
caberg
Re: The Cruising Community

Thanks, Brian! Great post up above re: how you got to where you are. This especially stood out for me, as I do contemplate this:

Quote:
I hope you will think, "How can I alter my career or make what I do work remotely?"
It's not entirely outside the realm of possibility if I were to get a bit creative within my field of work. Right now, the goal is to start establishing goals, and this is obviously a big key to the puzzle.

I think I'll share this post with my wife. We're very bored and unfulfilled with the 9-5, but she's more cautious than me when it comes to making significant life changes. She's "on board" (ha!) but needs to feel reasonably comfortable that we won't perish in a debtor's prison.

And please do alert us when "The Guide to Living Aboard... and boating with children" is published. I've read a number of books on living aboard/cruising, but none specific to children. Just finished "A Sail of Two Idiots" (a couple cruising Caribbean for 3 years), which was interesting, but honestly they seemed to give a mixed review on it all.

Anyway, thanks again for sharing!!
11-15-2012 12:44 PM
Cruisingdad
Re: The Cruising Community

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Originally Posted by sailortjk1 View Post
I can't believe anybody would offer to catch your lines.
I know you better than that.

How is everybody? Please say hello from the Midwest.
Do they have Bob Evans in Ft Meyers? Count me in.
Ahhh, Tim, it was an IHOP, remember? And my dear friend, you are your beautiful wife are always welcome.

Brian
11-15-2012 12:30 PM
Cruisingdad
Re: The Cruising Community

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Originally Posted by wingNwing View Post
Does this environment attract a certain kind of person, or shape them?
Now THAT sounds like a writing prompt, J!!!

There is a LOT of reasons people get into this life... too many to name. Most do it because they love sailing/boating and want a get-away for the weekends. Some do it because they are prepping to go cruising. Some do it because they are cruising. And some do it because I am convinced they have nowhere else to go. We will leave the last ones out of this discussion. However, I think most are shocked at the camaraderie they find on the docks and with other sailors. I believe that camaraderie is what keeps them coming long after the "new boat fever" has worn off (and it does wear off). I think it is the life and the people that make this such a wonderful adventure... not just the places and certainly not just the sailing. Even the people that come from a land-life and didn't know their neighbors may soon find themselves the Mayors of the Marina and hosting every get-together.

SO to answer your question, in my humble opinion, I think the environment shapes them... or lets them be the person they really are inside and just have not felt they had the place to show it.

Your thoughts???

Brian
11-15-2012 12:24 PM
sailortjk1
Re: The Cruising Community

I can't believe anybody would offer to catch your lines.
I know you better than that.

How is everybody? Please say hello from the Midwest.
Do they have Bob Evans in Ft Meyers? Count me in.
11-15-2012 12:18 PM
Cruisingdad
Re: The Cruising Community

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Originally Posted by Silvio View Post
Hey Brian,
I enjoy reading your posts, and as always your articulate and down to earth style is a welcome read.

I didn't realize that you are in St Petersburg. I spent a few months at St Pete City marina early this summer. I loved staying there! What a great community of folks at the dock, as you and others have already said.

My mother's house is just the other end of Central Ave, over in Treasure Island. I have been remodeling her kitchen the past couple weeks and would have dropped by to say hello had I recognized sooner you were there!

Well, if you are still around St Pete in December, I will be returning to do the final installation and would be pleased to buy you a diet Coke and say hello!

Take Care,
Silvio
Come on!!! I would love to meet you. You can meet me and the family. We are at the Harborage. I actually met Knothead a little bit back and we are going to get together for a drink or two.

ANyways, not sure where we are going to spend Christmas. I want the keys (Marathon) but Kris kinda wants Fort Myers Beach where we have a lot of close friends. Heck, we may be right back here for all I know. I have no agenda.

We are going to the Tortugas in a couple of weeks. Feel free to come along. Lots of boats going (or at least they say they are going).

There are soooo many great people here and friends I hate to leave. If we don't head up the east coast this next spring (unlikely), I think this may be our Hurricane Hole. I really love it here.

Brian
11-15-2012 12:12 PM
Cruisingdad
Re: The Cruising Community

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Originally Posted by travlineasy View Post
This is my first extended cruise, and at my age, it may be my last. I've met so many wonderful people from the head of Chesapeake Bay to south Florida, folks that have been friendly, always willing to help when problems arrise, and I'm more than willing to assist them in any way I can. They are from a diverse life, but all seem to have one thing in common - the love of sailing.

As an entertainer, I'm constantly in contact with large numbers of individuals, many of which could care less about sailing, or boating. Most tend to live in small communities where no one knows or talks with their next-door neighbor. Things have really changed over the years, particularly with the advent of IPhones, the Email, and the impersonal aspects of the Internet itself. While technology is a wonderful thing, to me, at least, this same technology has eroded the personal aspects of everyday life.

A few days ago I visited my brother and his family. Everyone was physically attached to their IPhone. It never left their hand, they were constantly checking for text messages, emails, etc... The world beyond the end of their fingers didn't seem to exist. Little babies were allowed to freely run around the house and constantly get into things that could potentially harm them. The only time the phone was put away was when a loud crash and the sound of breaking glass was heard in another room.

People walking down the streets in this small community were glued to their IPhones as well. Young ladies were out walking/jogging, wearing headsets, and every one of them had a phone in their hands. Many were not paying any attention to where they were walking, some walked across busy streets without looking up from their phones and I was amazed that none were killed or injured while I was there.

The same holds true for those driving cars. While in many states it's illegal to talk or text while driving, it's a law that's completely ignored. Nearly every driver had a phone jammed in their ear, and many were seen texting with their Iphones and IPads resting on the car's steering wheel. This is INSANE!

Fortunately, in the sailing community, life seems to be a bit like it was before IPhones and similar devices. Sure, most sailors have them, but that electronic device doesn't seem to dominate their lives. To me, at least, this is a breath of fresh air. People introduce themselves to perfect strangers, friendships are developed, and old friendships are rekindled. That's the way life should be.

For me, that cellular telephone plays a minor role. It's a great form of communications, but it's secondary to the best form of communication - interaction with people by reaching out and shaking their hand, helping them with the docklines, inviting them for dinner, mixing them a Green Coconut Margaretta, and in my case, having fun while singing with me during one of my musical performances.

Cheers,

Gary
Amen, Brother Gary, Amen!!

So, I went to get my haircut the other day at the barber shop locally. I am sitting there with four other college kids (I am right beside USFSP). They are all tied into their phones - texting or getting on the internet, etc. THey never look at each other. They never talk. I am not sure why the magazines are there, none of them look at them.

THe digital world has changed us all. In some ways, it is wonderful. Think of the massive information now available at a moment's notice on the internet. Even more important, look at how the social sites have altered politics (and in many ways, are keeping many politicians and others accountable). However, it has also separated us more than anything in the past. I believe it has contributed to the phenomenon of not knowing your nieghbor. Our ability to communicate verbally and in writing has plummeted.

Funny story, and sad I guess, but my kids have not always been raised on a boat. Many of you know that. SO we put them in a public school. They had a very difficult time interfacing with the other kids. THe other kids would talk about X box this, or Bob Square pants, or (insert TV show of choice). My kids were clueless. Television and the electronic mechanisms have dominated so much of our lives, we have become numb to the true implications and repercussions. Case in point: My kids get along very well with other adults and other cruising kids. They mesh immediately. But if you put them in a more traditional environment, they are lost and have serious "social" issues. They cannot communicate well with the other kids. THey have little in common. My kids will end up being the quiet ones in the corner, if not shunned.

You will read this and say, "Brian, that is all for the better. They don't need that. You are doing it right." Unfortunately, my children (and all of us) have to live in that world and eventually they must interface with them. It is one of the real issues that we as parents must be prepared to deal with and try to overcome. There are solutions, but none of them are "easy". And for those of us that grew up talking to our neighbors and without a smart phone clipped to our fingers, we always seem to underestimate the need for social skills and ability to fit in... whether we agree with it or not.

My opinions.

Brian

PS We have a Tv which we watch movies on. My kids have some electronic games, but they are heavily monitored (privlidges versus distractions). I have an IPhone. Chase has a phone. We all have laptops (which the kids use for school). SO, we have not shunned modern electronics... we just sideline them to each other.
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