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Re: Looking for Couple to go Sailing with my Wife and I
I've been doing that sort of thing for over 5 decades, as a yacht owner, professional captain and delivery skipper and IMO you are embarking on this in exactly the wrong way.
First off, buy a boat you and your wife are comfortable sailing alone, be it 40', 50' or 80', but putting yourselves in a position where you need others to help you sail your boat is a recipe for disaster. Honestly, just making it work, living and traveling in a space not much larger than your bedroom in your dirt dwelling is hard enough, no matter how close you are, but adding strangers to the mix adds all kinds of personality mismatches that can't be reconciled on a bit of boat 50' X 15' far from land.
Even in an anchorage, you'd best have a pair of dinghies to keep things working well after the honeymoon is over.
Some do OK sharing food expenses, none do well sharing maintenance expenses. If it is your boat then those expenses are yours to pay. If you can't afford that, then pass on the whole idea until you can. I never let anyone except the boat pay for food, allowing each crew member a portion of the provisioning money for treats, but it is all boat provisions, period. Should another crew member consume a treat someone thought was exclusively theirs, is a great way to sow disharmony at sea.
A boat is not a democracy. The hippies tried that back in the '60s.
Obviously, I could go on with plenty of anecdotal stories gained through so many years at sea, but this should give you plenty to mull over for now.
PM me with specific questions.
"Any idiot can make a boat go; it takes a sailor to stop one." Spike Africa aboard the schooner Wanderer in Sausalito, Ca. 1964.
“Believe me, my young friend, there is nothing - absolutely nothing - half so much worth doing as simply messing about in boats.” ― Kenneth Grahame, The Wind in the Willows
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