Found this an interesting response to non cruisers..
“As cruisers, especially youngish ones, the commonly heard question is always some variation of:
Aren't you worried about (pirates, storms, healthcare, fallback plans, etc)?
My answer is yes, of course.
Why go? Because security is an illusion. There is none.
It is the same on land in more traditional lifestyles as it is at sea, it's just different,
But nothing is promised. I could have done that, got sick at 45, died at 47. Could have lived to 90 in comfort and surrounded by family and friends.
All the trappings of traditional life,..... are all just things to occupy our time and minds ..... our time is so ******* short and no one knows what time it is.
So if you want to go, go. If you don't don't. The rest is nothing but smoke and lights and an effort to exercise control over things of which we have none.”
OMG, I have these kinds of conversations all the time, and some, more rudimentary than this. I have grown up my whole life in the Midwest. What people here in the Midwest know about boating is a bass fishing boat, a Jon Boat for catfishing on the rivers, and maybe ski boats on some of our inland lakes.
Most people in the midwest know somebody who has retired, bought a RV, and traveled the country visiting their grandchildren and all of the national parks. But, when I discuss my sailboat cruising plans, I get questions like: "But where do you go to the bathroom?"; "Can you cook meals on one of those?"; "What about showers?ĺ; "Is there a comfortable place to sleep?";
I always ask them if they know anybody who travels in an RV and they will say, "Oh yeah, I have an aunt and uncle who travel all over the country in an RV. It's really cool! They have a little kitchen area, they have a bathroom and a shower. They have pretty much everything they need in their RV".
I say, "Yeah, it's like that, only it's a little skinnier and it floats." Then they say, "You're a very social person, won't you get bored sitting confined in such a small space, staring out at nothing for days?"
This is why I took my wife on my week-long Canadian bare boat skipper's certification course, sailing out of Vancouver. It was a Hunter 31 and my wife said she didn't hate it. She has always enjoyed car camping and cabin camping. I have learned that she needs a comfortable bed and hot coffee in the morning, and she will follow me just about anywhere.
I have told my wife all of the lies that sailing husband's tell their non sailing wives: "Oh no Honey, our own boat will be much more comfortable because we'll fix it up the way we like it, and you can make it every bit as comfortable as home"; "No Honey, sailing isn't expensive. It's cheaper than flying places in an airplane and paying for hotel rooms and rental cars. And it's cheaper than retiring and taking cruises on cruise ships"; "No Honey, sail boats rarely ever sink. They're made of plastic. Even when they do sink, they take, on average of two hours to sink. Plus they have three different kinds of water pumps to pump the water out. And all of the places we will be sailing, the Coast Guard can get to within 20 minutes with one of their helicopters."
I've subjected my family to hours and hours of sailing videos, careful only to show the fun, fair weather sailing, and not the episodes with crashes, groundings, or extreme weather. I always make a point of pointing out, "See, that guy and his girlfriend bought a sailboat without knowing anything about sailing, or boats, they figured it out along the way, and have now sailed around the world the past few years. They didn't even take sailing courses like I did".
I read an article one day about a guy in his 90s who was lost at sea. I made some comment about how he was lucky, dying doing something he loved. Later my daughter sat me down to have a heart-to-heart talk. She wanted to make sure that I wasn't getting into sailing so that I could go to sea to commit suicide because I was depressed about getting older. I pointed out that the guy in the article was 30 years older than I am. I'm certainly not ready to check out yet.
In the Midwest, I have to deal with questions from people who say things like, "But aren't there sometimes killer whales or great white sharks that ram holes in small boats and then eat the people when they try to swim to safety?"