Yes, initially I did, but...
That's all I'm saying - trev. Again, what you responded to thereafter was not his response to you
- but to others who were insulting him
. So call a spade a spade. There's no reason to gang up on someone.
As Sloop said, there's a lot going on behind the scenes here on SN that has been going on for a long time. And my point herein has been - and still is - that fair should be fair. People can't troll a guy then call him
the troll. That's not how it works. I know.
In any case, I've been around the question of nervousness and sailing since the day I joined this forum in 2008. From "FightClub For Sailors" - to the more pertinent Big Freakin' Sails
, it's always been about facing that nervousness (whether about the boat or the talent or the readiness) and pushing the limits as most have said here. That's really what sailing is all about. Always.
Whether you want to call it "growing a pair" or "having a set of stones" or "if it's gonna happen it's gonna happen out there" or "being prepared as you can be and heading out" - it still comes down to the same thing...leaving the dock when you're not absolutely sure about the outcome.
This is what Ian was basically saying. And he's right.
It all comes down to what I laid out in the FightClub thread here about 10 years ago...
The Philosophy of The Stones:
When it comes to big sailing, what are “stones” really? Quite simply, it can all be broken down as follows:
1. One-Part Zest for Adventure and Excitement (left-hanging)
2. One-Part Desire to Push One’s Self Beyond One’s Limits (right-hanging)
3. One-Part Brain (just above and center)
When one employs the proper mixture of these three, you get stories of epic voyages, great attitudes, great lessons, and exciting sailors.
When, one relies only on 1-2, you get the inevitable SOS, next-of-kin notification, and the relentless POS I-Told-You-So on the forums.
However, as you find on most sailing forums, when one relies too much on 3, the 1-2s shrivel away to useless lumps. All you need to do is listen to the shrill forum sermons and this becomes perfectly clear. They lay down their rules for avoiding “stupidity” (e.g. – use of the 1-2s); and those rules get narrower and narrower and narrower. This goes on until they’re old and fat, sitting on the dock reverently talking about how much they know – and how much they want to just “protect sailing newbies from risk and danger"...
At that point - I
was the newbie. I'm not now. And I was right...then - and still am. You just have to go
- and be smart about it. Then take whatever is coming. Whatever you do, don't hug the dock.
So, my advice? Have a few Dark-n-Stormies and enjoy being around sailors...even the annoying ones. You'll learn something from all of them...and get a good laugh while you go.