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Re: Romance of Sailing
If I may, what you are describing is the "wine and cheese" type.
I love those folks and I participate in providing that to others from time to time... but that isn't why I sail... In fact every summer on our little puddle of a lake we have 1 hour sails that we take sailing newbs out on... Its part of our "Lake Fest." I've met tons of people who love the "peacefulness" of it all. They don't understand that most days I'm pounding through waves heeling like mad and fighting upwind.
To me, I get jazzed with the challenge of sailing to the conditions. Whether that is NO wind, weird chop, heavy wind... I like to fight the challenge. Sure that's not always why I go out, but its the attitude I've taken, so that I sail more. It makes it an intellectual challenge, and frankly a physical one as well.
I'm all for "wine and cheese" romance of sailing, and cruising, in small doses.
While my wife and I just spent 11 days in the BVIs just the 2 of us together on a beautiful new boat, it wasn't all wine and cheese cruising, but there was some of that along with the type of sailing I really like (pounding through the water, gearing down and really sailing).
If you sell your significant other on the romance of sailing, you'll likely lose them in the long term sailing (not necessarily the relationship, just the partner for sailing)... If its approached as an "activity" like camping, or horse-back riding, you more properly "sell" it as a together activity.
Ironically my wife and I horseback ride too... actually we compete running dogs on horseback, in field trials... Its not all riding off into the sunset for sure... some of its hard work, and downright dangerous at times. Love the dogs, love the horses, but is not all a slow mosey on a horse in perfect weather.
Freedom, a 1983 C&C 32 sailing Smith Mountain Lake, VA