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Re: Components of Successful boat ownership
I believe I have seen more couples quit sailing because of how they treat each other on the boat.
Yelling at the foredeck person to jump or in some other way expect that person to get a line ashore when the person on the helm hasn't done their job and gotten the boat close enough to the dock that the line handler can safely step ashore is one of the big ones.
Normally it's the husband berating his wife of 20 to 40 years because he is not in control of the situation and taking his insecurity out on her. Yelling and screaming as they perform any maneuver, anchoring, docking or raising/lowering sail. Just plain ugly, unnecessary and counterproductive.
Really, how much talk/yelling back and forth has to go into anchoring? The helmsperson signals the depth with a prearranged system and the anchor person acknowledges. Time to drop? How about a thumbs down? The person dropping the anchor should know to let out at least 3:1 scope and about the time the anchor is setting (we do not often back down) the second person arrives forward to discuss adding more scope, if necessary and help set the spring. No headsets, no yelling; clean, neat and professional.
So, for any couple reading this with the thought of getting a boat and having fun aboard, remember your bestie, your partner and longtime companion is not responsible for your mistakes. Own your mistakes and don't hurt your partner's feelings and take the fun out of sailing because of your insecurities. You are a team; learn together and support each other.
"Any idiot can make a boat go; it takes a sailor to stop one." Spike Africa aboard the schooner Wanderer in Sausalito, Ca. 1964.
“Believe me, my young friend, there is nothing - absolutely nothing - half so much worth doing as simply messing about in boats.” ― Kenneth Grahame, The Wind in the Willows
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