Join Date: Dec 2012
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Re: Sailing failures
Still new at it but have found the following helps.
For several years went back and forth to the Caribbean. I really like passage. Wife doesn’t. I don’t mind seeing family occasionally. Wife wants more contact. So this year for the first time left the boat in Grenada and stayed in our house for the summer. Total boat break. Other than SN no sail related activities.
We take two extended boat breaks during the winter. Xmas and spring. Total of 5 weeks off the boat. Beyond family time do at least one land trip.
So approach it as having two homes. Two divergent lifestyles.
On key things do my own work. Just don’t totally trust yards. But whereas I used to do the bottom, pull varnish, wax and do all the lesser skilled work now write check. Sure price it out and try to keep expenses down but have taken to the “you get one pass” attitude. Rather miss a few meals in restaurants, getting fancy clothes and other stuff like that than be doing grunt work.
Sure I’ll do grunt work when bored and stuck on the boat like when making water but surprisingly just cutting down on mindless maintenance work makes a huge difference in your attitude towards the boat.
Used find a spot anchor snorkel, read and hangout. Now do more land exploring, more involved cooking and non boat stuff. Also still have the smaller more difficult islands to see. And there’s charity work to do.
You need to shake it up. You need to not be unidimensional. Ben Franklin said”boredom is a sign of lack of intelligence “.