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Anxiety has been defined as the anticipation of fear. Anxiety is total counterproductive. I think anxiety not fear is what holds people back from much of the joys of sailing.
I went halvies on several boats with another doc. It made sense as with our call schedules the boat sat otherwise and of course expenses were halved as well. He loved sailing in weather. I thought he was nuts. However, when neither of us were on all off we go together. Usually a fresh breeze or strong breeze but occasionally a gale. I got use to it and actually started to enjoy the power and majesty of an angry ocean. Never sort it out like him but did lose the anxiety associated with weather within reason.
My (at the time) 10 year old and I were out cruising for the weekend. We needed to get back by Monday for school and work. We got caught out in a constant 30 kts. Needing to free a line gave her the helm. Got back as quick as I could and found her smiling. Surfing the boat with great skill and control. Anticipating the 10-12’ ers better than most helmsmen I know. Giggling time to time as the spray hit her. She had lots of prior experience helming with me by her side but this was fairly new. She knew not to broach or gybe. Thing is she had no preconceived ideas so no anxiety. She had the skills from prior experience and was able to apply them flawlessly. I left left her at helm with instructions to turn it over to me when she wanted and stayed by her side. When she had to pee I got the helm again.

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Many people, especially children don't understand their own limitations. This may get them into trouble. Prudence may be knowing that you don't know and need to protect yourself from your ignorance and short comings. Maybe

pay attention... someone's life depends on it
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Thatís why they come with parents most of the time.😁
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Going to toss a log on the fire here since it's been burning... what? three years?

This really isn't about the women being afraid it's about the men being afraid to leave the helm! Face it guys you don't wanna give it up!! (This is meant to be humorous! [emoji56][emoji1787] if you haven't figured that out so don't get all crazy on me)

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