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Thank you for your thoughtful reply. I hope your niece can learn from you and feel more confident out there in the world. Talking to you gives me hope for the next generation.
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Just reading your story and dreams. You are young (I assume) and have lots of time to learn and decide where you go with it all. My advice would be to not try and make all the plans so quickly, having a goal and doing as much as you can in the mean time is more important than just looking to the end result. I know people who have raised kids on a Boat, and it worked out fine, but I would not do it, just me. Not small ones anyway 8-10-12 maybe but not infants, again just me. Maybe your husband is thinking something like that and its not coming through. Make all your plans and then just muddle through, life's best advice so far.
Actually I'm 43. This will be baby #2 post-40.
We aren't taking infants to live on a sailboat. They'll both be at least potty-trained. I'm aiming for 3 & 4, but might not make it out til they are 4 & 5. We'll make that decision in a few years.


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While I totally relate to our generations disdain for the younger gens electronic socializing, we should be careful not to fully discount it. My kids have far greater networks than I ever had at their age. They reach out for information, expertise and connections, far better than our generation did. I may be good working a room, face to face, palm to palm, they're better working the planet.

Be sure your kids don't miss out on the power of it all.


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Re: Talking Husband into Living on a Sailboat

This is a great thread!

A year ago my family of four, kids then 11 and 15, and two dogs returned from a year in the Pacific Northwest followed by six months in Mexico. The boat is for sale in San Diego. That wasn’t the specific plan, but our family always knew that was a possibility, and that is OK. Meanwhile we took a risk, kicked some small amount of ass, and now we are doing something else, and thinking about what the future holds. We know we can do anything. Being really open ended worked well for all of us, even as we sailed from beach to beach.

My wife was the reluctant one, but after she realized it was all about education and experience, and not some magical, Herculean skills and abilities, she was in. She took classes, we sailed a bunch, and through it all involved the kids and laughed a lot. The class my wife took was key. It was a week long sailing class, and the first night out I got a picture of her in a hammock drinking a glass of wine as the sun went down. Nice! Would you husband like to do something like that? Every day checking the engine, belts, sailing hard, running through crew overboard drills, then kicking back and relaxing in the evenings swinging at anchor?

I like that your plans are not set in stone, that you seem flexible. And the kid advice has been good. My kids are deep and rich for their online friends and resources, but I still worry about it sometimes regardless. They also had plenty of very sweaty days, running around playing games with other kids, paddling from boat to boat to visit in the anchorage. Everyone took care of the kids, like a neighborhood in the fifties. And they spent time on the screen after spending time in the water. It was really good for them.
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