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A Taser works pretty well too...
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Sailing, golf, skiing - don't learn from your partner. I took golf lessons and still my hubby felt compelled to *help*. The final solution was instigating a one stroke penalty for each piece of unsolicited advice. THAT worked. And he was glad to point that out when we were paired with some guy who had the same compulsion. I haven't found the sailing equivalent yet, but since I single-handed our boat before he did, he's been better. I've heard keel-hauling has been used with some success.....



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Great posts, perfect timing. My wife has never had any interest in learning to sail, we have had boats forever (married 36 yrs). She grew up in power boats and runs/docks our 28' commercial crab boat, but until last week on a 9 day sail she has never expressed any interest in learning to run the sailboat by herself. Not sure what changed but now, not only does she want to learn, but she wants to spend 3-5 months of the year cruising (yes!). My first reaction(non-verbal) was "I would love to teach you as much as you want to learn", but instead I said "you know, I've heard there are sailing classed taught by women, maybe that would be a good way to start". She was really interested and we are going to see what's available and let her decide when, etc. I don't think it is a question of intimidation(hope not), I just think she would feel more comfortable in an all female situation. Either way, I am all for it.

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Sorry for the delay, yesterday was a off day. I'll see what the wife's plans are for Friday, we might be able to add the Wet Dog to the list. If so you'll know me by the avatar pic (yeah, that's really me, bald head an all).
This being boat show weekend in Annapolis I have a feeling it is going to be a tad on the overpopulated, noisy side (what sailor's noisy?, never).

Getting her on sailnet, not likely - she's not a forum kinda person.

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Sailing, golf, skiing - don't learn from your partner. I took golf lessons and still my hubby felt compelled to *help*. The final solution was instigating a one stroke penalty for each piece of unsolicited advice. THAT worked. And he was glad to point that out when we were paired with some guy who had the same compulsion. I haven't found the sailing equivalent yet, but since I single-handed our boat before he did, he's been better. I've heard keel-hauling has been used with some success.....
SailorPam,

Here's something that might work when sailing: If HE is nagging or yelling at you, calmly reach over and remove both winch handles from their respective holders or winches. Take one and throw it overboard. Dangle the other over the side of the boat and firmly tell him if he makes one more critical comment the second winch handle will join the first. This should button him up pretty quickly. He'll know you mean business, and hopefully will think twice before criticizing in the future.

If he behaves better, in a few years you can buy him a replacement handle as a gift and have a good laugh.

Many years ago I read about a woman who did this and she claimed it was highly effective. I added the part about buying a replacment as a gift because I cringe at the thought of how expensive they are. But don't let that stop you....
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SailorPam,

Here's something that might work when sailing: If HE is nagging or yelling at you, calmly reach over and remove both winch handles from their respective holders or winches. Take one and throw it overboard. Dangle the other over the side of the boat and firmly tell him if he makes one more critical comment the second winch handle will join the first. This should button him up pretty quickly. He'll know you mean business, and hopefully will think twice before criticizing in the future.
Yikes! Did I mention I'm a cruiser? Way too cheap for that maneuver. But I might consider tossing his favorite hat Besides he's too wonderful to punish, he's been very patient with my learning curve.

BTW I came up with a new definition of the difference between racers & cruisers: Racers want to finish first, cruisers never want to finish
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BTW I came up with a new definition of the difference between racers & cruisers: Racers want to finish first, cruisers never want to finish
That is stunningly accurate!
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Welcome Pam to hersailnet. Great words spoken. I like the idea of the tossing the wrench in.. Will have to put that in my bag of tricks.
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