We, not in this forum. I guess it's all on you tube and I should stop watching those videos. I spend a lot of time on you tube since I'm currently in New Mexico and cannot get real experience here.
Lots of videos showing the idiot new guy failing to dock properly, running aground, etc. Maybe it everyone making fun of the dumb stuff new people do vice just hating the new guy.
Some people on some of the forums are real pieces of work sometimes, but I think that's a symptom of just who they are as people and probably isn't exclusive to their sailing life. People who are assholes tend to have that assholeyness exaggerated online where they have keyboard courage and don't have to deal with people face to face. Why would you care what that kind of person thinks anyway?
Considering that serpa4 has admitted that he is informed mostly by the internet and doesn't have much real life experience, it is understandable that he/she may be concerned about sailors' attitudes in light of the existence of internet jerks that oldragbaggers acknowledges.
Case in point:
So, given the choice of "put up or shut up", you seem to have chosen "none of the above", as you haven't shown one of the many, hate filled videos you told us about.
Seems like you either have some personal issues you need to resolve, as has already been suggested, or you just throw the "hate" word around indiscriminately. Either way, you should quit it.
I'll add that Sailing Anarchy is a place that attracts jerks and Cruisers Forum has quite a lot of argumentative threads and lots of posters there seem intolerant of those who do not have expertise in their particular set of group-thought. Even this thread piles on the OP for expressing an observation that is not popular with the in-group.
To serpa4 - Sailors, as a whole, aren't different than the general population, as a whole. Your experience will mostly be about the attitude you bring and how you react to the various people and situations you will encounter. Most people are good and want to be helpful. Some are insecure and need to put other people down in order to prop themselves up. Some are crusty on the outside and warm and fuzzy on the inside....Find the people you like; try to be nice to the people you don't like, and above all, don't be an ashhole.
Don't be afraid to ask questions or request help. It gives people an convenient opportunity to do their daily good deed. And if you follow their advice, they will not criticize you.
As in all groups, the jargon seems offputting to the neophyte. But just like traveling to different countries, an attempt to learn a bit of the language is appreciated and goes a long way toward having people warm up to you.