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SkipperSusan 06-05-2016 09:44 AM

Pirate Girl Seeks Match in Vermont
 
I am tossing this off my leeward bow , out like a wish flying on a milkweed seed.. I am a youthful 59 year old 5'5" ,height , Weight balanced, brown eyed , wavy longer, brown, haired cute professional sailor . I am the owner of a 1987 Pacific Seacraft Crealock cutter 34 . I charter and pleasure sail on Lake Champlain.I am looking for a sailing partner / life partner who is interested in Lake cruising this summer out of Colchester Vermont Malletts Bay and would be interested in long distance cruising winter of 2018. The boat is in excellent shape as is her skipper .
I'm looking for someone who is great company and rather mechanical and has assets. Sailing is my life style and all my friends at the sailing school I work for are married or students. Great cruising grounds here but my boat is built for salt so is there a salty dog out there without a boat or perhaps one even better than mine?
Pix of vessel, woman, cat available if you send a reasonable response and a photo. I'm on my mooring in Vermont ... Lightly....Susan

krisscross 06-05-2016 02:35 PM

Re: Pirate Girl Seeks Match in Vermont
 
Dang... the boat alone is worth moving to Vermont!
Girl, you'll be mobbed.

Jim_W 06-05-2016 03:52 PM

Re: Pirate Girl Seeks Match in Vermont
 
Are you a real pirate girl with a wooden leg and an eye patch or just an internet pirate girl??

krisscross 06-05-2016 04:09 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Jim_W (Post 3521690)
Are you a real pirate girl with a wooden leg and an eye patch or just an internet pirate girl??

You sir, deserve this response: http://pre13.deviantart.net/f727/th/...lo-d4j0uup.jpg

Jim_W 06-05-2016 04:10 PM

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Lmao

xort 06-05-2016 05:55 PM

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Prepare to be boarded!

Arrrrgh

CalebD 06-05-2016 07:55 PM

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Good luck SkipperSusan. You sound like quite a catch.
Alas I am married to my current boat, wife & lifestyle.

You will meet people while you are "out there" coastal cruising.

Fish53 06-21-2016 12:17 PM

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I'm 62, professional mariner for 40 years (1600gt master oceans)diesel mechanic, 5' 10" 195lbs., good health , non smoker. Can leave on short notice.

overbored 06-21-2016 07:46 PM

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Post picture of boat.

titustiger27 06-22-2016 06:26 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by overbored (Post 3548826)
Post picture of boat.

:devil

are you thinking the woman is great, but

the boat is too much work?
:laugh

Minnewaska 06-22-2016 06:29 AM

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I think we haven't heard back from the OP, since her first post two weeks ago, because some smart guy married her already. Probably younger than most of us, who needed a nap and a pee before getting out of the house, then forgot why we did so and had to go back and read the post again.

titustiger27 06-22-2016 06:58 AM

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I fee responsible for this... Original Poster had put up an ad on Craigslist and I suggested she try the companion forum here..

A week ago when I saw she had made the opening post, I sent a personal message (and one to the Craigslist address) suggesting she follow up... but I see she has yet to come back.


Those who are in a relationship probably don't understand the complexity of dating past bar day hook up age.

The older you get, the more you live in a rural area.. just about ever factor in your life makes it more difficult.

For example: say you want to live on a sailboat, that might cut out 90% of the people you can be in a relationship with (and it is a small group past the age of 40 already), Just the fact removes you from family and friends would eliminate lots of people even considering it.

Add to this, you have to be vigilant. If you are on a dating site... you are probably on the wrong one, if you go to social functions... how do you make it clear that 'I'm hear to walk dogs, but I really want a date too!'

Knowing what I know now, I might have considered a bad marriage in my 20's :eek


JimsCAL 06-22-2016 08:14 AM

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I know five couples who met sailing. Four at our yacht club and and another via a singles sailing club.

newt 06-22-2016 11:36 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by titustiger27 (Post 3549314)
:devil

are you thinking the woman is great, but

the boat is too much work?
:laugh

It is almost always the other way around.

TomMaine 06-22-2016 12:17 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by JimsCAL (Post 3549442)
I know five couples who met sailing. Four at our yacht club and and another via a singles sailing club.

My first date with my wife was taking her sailing, for her first time. In fact to go with this thread, we sailed up to Shelburne Farms on Lake Champlain, and listened to the Vermont Symphony Orchestra, at anchor.

We've been happily married - and sailing - ever since. Don't underestimate the power of sail. :)

deniseO30 06-22-2016 12:35 PM

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They way the singles seeking companionship are treated here is just; atrocious! If you aren't single it's just wrong to make a joke out of any post were someone is seeking a friend/possibly more. Why do the MODs allow all the snarky, off color, sexually suggestive, "ok I'm married but" remarks? I'd never date a sailor!

guitarguy56 06-22-2016 02:03 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by deniseO30 (Post 3549970)
They way the singles seeking companionship are treated here is just; atrocious! If you aren't single it's just wrong to make a joke out of any post were someone is seeking a friend/possibly more. Why do the MODs allow all the snarky, off color, sexually suggestive, "ok I'm married but" remarks? I'd never date a sailor!

Agree... 150% and more... I'd think there are too many single people out there sailing and if the interest is there you'll find them... definitely are not going to find any of them here on these forums, old salts, married salts, old non sailing farts... you get my drift. ;)

I got together with my current wife of 32 years coming up in August of this year because I liked horses... met my wife at Palm Beach Polo and Country Club at the polo grounds in West Palm Beach as she was holding a polo players pony... I approached her (I was 28 and she was 21) and we talked, socialized, engaged 9 months later, we married in '84... I was in the Navy at the time but surely didn't ever want to marry a Navy woman... EVER!

Same here... there are so many other interesting people doing so many other unique endeavors, perhaps you may find someone you might just get him interested in sailing and the like... Got nothing to lose.

Minnewaska 06-23-2016 07:05 AM

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I think a sense of humor is a significant attraction to most, but not all, in both genders. Some of these "looking for companionship" posts are just kooky enough that they elicit rough responses, but I didn't think this one was not all that bad. Just some lighthearted fun. I only notice one innuendo above, which is well below average (unless a bunch were deleted) and even that one I think was intended as a compliment, even a potential warning. Also, keep in mind that those looking for companionship can as often be predators, although, I doubt that is the case with this one. I've seen too many young ladies agree to go aboard a sailboat, destine for adventure, with someone they met yesterday. Warning Will Robinson.

Let's face it. Looking for companionship on the internet is a new era and it simply doesn't follow the same rule book we all had as a kid.

It sounds like the OP has a very attractive proposition. One which included a description of physical characteristics, I might add. She's doing the right thing, by looking for someone who shares interests. That's very important, for a life partner, in my experience. My suggestion, if nothing works out soon, is to move and reengage in a new sailing community elsewhere.

As a pitch, I think Narragansett Bay is one huge middle aged sailing hook up community. :) Vermont is pretty limited, not proportionately many sailors in the first place, certainly fewer looking to sail the oceans. Around here you can join museums as a volunteer, teach sailing, volunteer at restoration schools or safety seminars, race or just help with organizing committees, its' literally endless. You'll meet more people interested in sailing that you can possibly remember names.

JimsCAL 06-23-2016 07:48 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Minnewaska (Post 3551162)
Vermont is pretty limited, not proportionately many sailors in the first place, certainly fewer looking to sail the oceans.

However in the winter it's a different story for single women. Far more men than women at the ski areas.

MarkofSeaLife 06-23-2016 09:39 AM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by deniseO30 (Post 3549970)
They way the singles seeking companionship are treated here is just; atrocious! If you aren't single it's just wrong to make a joke out of any post were someone is seeking a friend/possibly more. Why do the MODs allow all the snarky, off color, sexually suggestive, "ok I'm married but" remarks? I'd never date a sailor!

I totally agree with you.

I have tried most strongly to get mods of a certain other forum to understand this. They gave an official response that single people are fair game to be slagged off at.
Despicable.

titustiger27 06-23-2016 08:37 PM

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While I understand how singles are singled out (ha, get it), but I also like that all topics are open for humor... I made a joke about I could be in a bad marriage, I didn't mean to insult married people... but I guess they part of the joke.

When it is relentless... gets old


what concerns me is when people go to forums that are not intended for them and take over.. The best example is herSailNet. But I guess if you are a man and you are an expert on women's sailing issues... well


clutch_pack 06-16-2018 12:16 PM

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skippersusan - am 62 soon to be retired mechanic in central ny. wondering how you made out with your sailing in salty waters. am getting the bug

SanderO 06-16-2018 08:50 PM

Re: Pirate Girl Seeks Match in Vermont
 
It's understandable that single sailors would used sailing for meeting and dating. Why not? I assume most of the posts seeking companionship are legitimate and wonder why all the joking and belittling of the effort??? The OP sounds fine to me and I hope she finds what she is looking for. She sounds like a good catch for the right sailor. Certainly on a regular meet up site you would be wasting your time with such a focused set of "specs".

Good luck to her. I hope she finds what she is after.

titustiger27 06-16-2018 09:58 PM

Re: Pirate Girl Seeks Match in Vermont
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by clutch_pack (Post 2051527122)
skippersusan - am 62 soon to be retired mechanic in central ny. wondering how you made out with your sailing in salty waters. am getting the bug


If you look at Sailing Susan's profile, you will see her last activity was two years ago...

MarkofSeaLife 06-17-2018 01:49 AM

Re: Pirate Girl Seeks Match in Vermont
 
If you look at the original post. On the same day we're 6 replies by "homorists" pretending not to make fun of her at a vulnerable moment... And a picture of a half undressed far younger woman.
Really it's just **f&@#ing** disgusting what single people have to put up with.

Not only that her post gives enough information to easily identify her and her work place opening her to ridicule.

Of the 24 total responses just guess how many are not just morons being stupid?

And to make it worse the unfeeling Mods who allow it.

Both here and Cruisers Forum there's a special sub-forum for 'Ckmpanionship'... And both allow belittling of posters and responders.

You ratbags who are in a nice secure relationship may be happy to scoff and ridicule people whose husbands or wife's have died, or have been through the heartbreak of familily dissolution, but let me tell you I find the attitudes of Moderators and members utterly disgusting.

Either delete the sub-forum or start putting brain and humility into geer and show support by immediately deleting all responses other than those obviously seriously contributing.

Just stop bullying people who are displaying their innermost vulnerability.


Mark

SanderO 06-17-2018 06:04 AM

Re: Pirate Girl Seeks Match in Vermont
 
Mark is correct. It's perfectly understandably that someone who is deeply into sailing and single and seeking a partner would want one who is into sailing... at least into learning. I think a fair amount of females see seeing a picnic... romantic possibilities perhaps... but not a lifestyle... not a passion... not something a "normal" person would do 24/7. I think these women are correct...24/7 sailors are NOT your average person perhaps. And this means that the "lifestyle" could isolate them from experience which are important to them. A 24/7 sailor female is indeed rare and why would those who are 24/7 male sailors or wanting to be ridicule this? This is beyond dumb.

Of course you will find some troll posting a BS add... or some sort of naive newbie jumping into these "shark invested waters"... but this reads like a completely legitimate and compelling personal ad. After the majority of the responses no wonder the OP never posted after that or that others looking to do the same would think long and fast about it. The replies were disgraceful. And how many men ridicule other men for posting a sailing personal? I suspect few. This appears to be yet another example of the sexism all around us... on the water as well.

Minnewaska 06-17-2018 08:11 AM

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I am equally frustrated by those that actively accuse every man of being sexist, if their wife isn't at the helm. ;)

Sal Paradise 06-17-2018 08:12 AM

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Agree - mods should delete all irrelevant responses on companionship threads.

k6uaw 08-19-2018 06:01 PM

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Hello Pirate girl

I am Malcolm and also just posted on sailnet looking for a girl. I am 70 with 50 years exp sailing. I used to own a Crealock 37. Very nice boats. back then (1991) I owned an electronics business and could only take the weekend off. too short for a sail to santa cruz is and back in a weekend. So I sold the Crealock and bought an Island Gypsy 40 ft trawler. with that I could get two full days in at the island and hardly miss any work. We had a home with a slip in ventura ca. Would leave our slip at 8a Sat , arrive at santa cruz at 10:40a on sat morning. Had all day to swim, snorkel, dive, visit with friends, etc. Then on sunday, did not have to go home as we did with the sailboat so we enjoyed a second day there and left for Ventura at 6a Mon morn. , in our slip at 8:30a, tidied up and at my office by 9:30 or so. So the trawler was great. In the years with that boat I became pretty expert at twin screw. We once chartered a Nordic tug 42 in BVI for two weeks and did excellent due to years of single screw sailboats. But a single screw trawler with a hefty engine and a large wheel, actually is way way more responsive than a sailboat maneuvering in wind, tight quarters etc. And trawlers are way more comfy when you get to destination.

So we owned seven sailboats [last was a Jeanneau 43DS sold 2014] and two trawlers for 43 and 7 years respectfully. 50 years total seamanship with a lot of hours per year. I single handed the Jeanneau 43 from San Francisco to Ventura (abt 380nm) in gale warnings with actual wind of 30 to 50 kts. Mostly about 40 kts with 20 ft seas. Yep.. quite experienced.

My wife and sailing partner all those years passed from Alzheimers Nov 3, 17. I cared for her at home until the end. the end was quite ugly. I still cry for my Arlene daily. You don't really appreciate how much you love someone until they are gone. Altho we both said "I love you" almost every day for 50 years.


If we worked out, would you be willing to go in on a larger boat with diesel genset and amenities to make life really comfy? I'd like to have a slip in a gulf state and set sail for the virgins when hurricane season ends and bum around there and back before next hurricane season. Any how I am pretty well fixed so between us we could have what we want. I am thinking sloop with stay'sl (cutter?) or Trawler (Grand Banks 42 or 46 Europa) ?


I am 70 but everyone thinks i'm 50 or 60 something because my hair is still the same color as when I was a teenager. I have grown a mustache recently.


I love all forms of classical music including Opera. Arlene and I saw over 100 live opera's together over the years. Also love piano trios. Beethoven, Tchaikovsky, Mendelssohn, Schubert et al.


have I whet your appetite? or not? We share same passion for boating I think we can give each other what we need and looking for.


I am an electronics engineer. When our daughter graduated from HS I suddenly felt free and emboldened and started my own company designing, selling digital communications products. The company took off like a sailboat with genoa unfurled in a 20k breeze. I've been retired since 2001. Prior to starting my business I was a senior staff engineer at Hughes Aircraft in Culver City CA.

My cell is 951 852 3258 call or text me and lets see if we have the right stuff for each other. I hope so. I'm getting tired of being alone in a 3500 sf home. I reside in Hot Springs Village, AR google it. My home is on Lake Balboa, has a two slip boathouse, 19 ft ski boat and a 40 ft pool.

Oh.. I am damn skilled at maintaining boats, diesels, you name it. and the other arts of boating.. anchoring. beautiful three strand eye splices with or without thimble etc, navigation. also damn handy at home maintenance. Never have called a plumber. just got done installing two new water heaters in my home.

anxious to hear from you. once we have each others cell numbers we can quickly exchange pics, selfies and more. if you have an iPhone, we can use face time to see each other, I can show you In and out of my home, pool etc.


Color me anxious !!

midwesterner 08-20-2018 01:34 PM

Captain Susan posted that notice over 2 years ago. On another site, she mentions that she currently has a partner. I think she found a guy.

Joseph Anthony 05-02-2019 08:20 PM

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Hey, I am rather young, but I got a few good years left in me yet. I was searching for a small boat, but lets get lass onto the salt and get this life rolling eh?

35M, Illinois.


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