He did, and I wondered this too. Jeff_H is always talking about how some of these era boats are extremely tender and uncomfortable to sail (especially new sailors). Is this one of those?
No... but it did revive my old parachuting days, so thanks!Re "Calming Breaths" Vs "Get Over It"
I am not a Calming Breaths kinda dude.
The Army studies fear. Kinda weird, until I thought about it Until recently (30 years or so) they were the only workplace to instruct Leadership.
Anyway I was in the part time army (in Australia) in officer training. They needed to asses how you deal with fear. The easiest and cheapest way to give the fear of death was to take us up in an old clunker plane and tell us to get out. Those that parachuted passed. They didnt care what method you used. Interesting was the different ways people reacted when we go to the ground: It was a water jump ie into water. I was first out and first into the recovery boat, and, obviously helped everyone else into the boat. Funnily enough, no one else helped. Other interesting bit was half the group were all 'man, what a buzzzzz'.... the other half were quiet. I was certainly one of the quiet half. I did it but didn't like it.
I don't think this post has helped the discussion!
Here is part of the problem....you say "if I did roll the boat"...I would like to thank everyone for the great feedback. Yes, reefing tends to one of my go to strats when my nerves start to get away from me, and yes, I'm sure a lot of it is still my lack of experience working against me, since as previously stated, I know I can swim (and quite well) so if I did roll the boat, well, provided I wasn't incapacitated, I've got options.
I agree 100% with denverd0n & Arcb about getting on a small boat! That is how I started and I never even blinked when I got on a keel boat and it heeled.My advice would be to do some sailing in a small dinghy, or small catamaran, where tipping over is no big deal. With a boat like that you can sail it right up to, and then over, the edge. You will get to understand what it feels like when a sailboat is about to go over on its side -- and there very definitely is a "feel" to it that you will quickly recognize.
Once you are able to recognize that feel, you will also realize that you are nowhere near that point in any sort of normal heeling situation.
Whatever you do, good luck.
Worth repeating. You are worrying about something that is simply not going to happen, unless you are out in absurdly bad conditions. Don't carry full sail directly into a thunderstorm and you have nothing to worry about.You are NOT going to roll the boat! It just doesn't happen unless you are out in extreme conditions with an extreme sea state!
I think overcoming fear is done with pure rational thought and a keen focus on exactly what you doing relative to the task at hand. Rock climbers focus on thier gear, the wall and upward mobility. Of course the know that one wrong move could send them to thier death but so can fear itself. Fear takes up alot of computing power that is better left to the tasks at hand that will keep you safe. Also, owning the knowledge and understanding of how to deal with each and every possible scenario using the equipment you have or need to procure is foremost. Lastly, asking questions instead of being afraid that you wont appear to be the ultimate seasoned sea captain on a forum or in the Marina is the fastest way to becoming the ultimate sea captain.Hey gang,
I was going to hijack my own thread in another message, but now that I'm really thinking about this subject, it deserves it's own message thread, so here goes.
I'll start off by admitting I'm really embarrassed to admit this, but deep breath upwind sailing with a healthy heel on the boat scares the crap out of me.
As a lot of you know, I have a Columbia 39 which has a really nice high freeboard (one of the reasons I purchased her) and when I'm in the cockpit, it's feels pretty reassuring to know that I'm pretty far away from the water.
However, in a good blow, she heels right the hell over, and again I feel stupid for admitting this (because aren't we all supposed to be fearless in this pursuit of passion) but it's a white knuckle experience for me every-time.
I try a lot of those self-help relaxation techniques when I'm in this situation, (reminding myself I can always head up, let out the main, I know how to f**king swim if I do something stupid and we actually rolled, etc etc)...but it doesn't really help. The fear of [insert whatever irrational fear I think might happen] sometimes can almost be crippling, so I usually cave instead of just keeping to the course and I'll head up to reduce the heel which helps calm my anxiety a bit (if not necessary being an optimal sail course).
I'm not sure if it's just my inexperience as a sailor commanding my own boat, or if I just don't have the "right stuff" (nerves of steel maybe) to really pursue this sport... perhaps a certain personality type can handle "fear" better than others, but at times, it's led me to doubt if I've made the right choice.. (maybe I should have just gotten a powerboat instead)...
So what I'm wondering is, do the more experienced sailors here ever experience "fear" or doubt about the decision to do this? I'm not looking for a reason to "give up or quit" I suppose I'm just looking to see how other, more experienced folks might have dealt with rational / irrational fear of certain aspects of the sport...(if they ever had to).
I'll cross a few off the list right now. I'm highly allergic to MJ, so I can't use "medical MJ" as a calming agent. I also already drink "like a fish" so that's my main go to nerve calmer for sailing upwind. Good for my liver, absolutely not. Helpful when I'm white knuckling it upwind? A bit, but not always enough.