Maybe theres more to the story than what you’ve related here but other than “telling” rather than asking her to untie the lines I don’t understand what he did wrong. Since someone had to be at the helm and she was just a “chatty Kathy” who didn’t have any more clue than he did about how toOne of my pet peeves is people that don't know what they're doing telling people what what to do! And the basic assumption, that only men get behind that wheel or on the tiller, don't move their butt and think it's their job to spout orders even they don't know how tell people what or how to do things, I saw that next to my boat over the weekend this young man apparently just got the boat, chatty Kathy girlfriend of his was on the boat, neither of them knew what they were doing but it didn't keep him from telling her to go and untie the lines. She had no idea whatsoever what to do, thankfully for them, the engine started smoking and they came right back to the slip. In all fairness this is not all or most men but the colonial way of thinking is still well entrenched, again In fairness and there are plenty of women that differ to the male just because they are male. I don't this want it to be a knock down drag out male female battle but it's pretty hard to avoid the issue!
operate a boat, and it was his boat, not hers, it seems like they divided up the necessary duties about as well as a couple of novices could be expected to. Would you really have thought it better if he untied the lines himself and put “chatty Kathy” at the helm of his new boat, or tried to do it all himself? Other than apparently not being as polite as he should have been when he “told” her to untie the lines, how should he have handled it differently?