I am looking into buying a good sailing daysailing boat. I don't plan to sleep on it but would like a marine head and inboard engine. I've narrowed the search to the J100 and Alerion 28. How much light air sailing will I be giving up the the alerion 28 and will my wife be hanging on with her fingernails with the J100? Just trying to narrow down the tradeoffs. Thanks for any help!